To lie on the bed next to the baby if it helps him nap

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He's four months old and is getting over a rotten cold which has made him very clingy and his sleep is shot to bits. I've finally got him to have a nap (he's been screaming with tiredness since lunchtime, having barely slept last night and refused to nap this morning) by feeding him to sleep on the bed next to me with white noise going full blast. We're moving house next week and I have not packed a thing. DM has just turned up to 'help' and burst in rattling bin bags () and demanding I get up and do things as 'he'll have to learn, and you'll have to stop using him as an excuse to lie about!' Every time I move he half wakes up though and starts crying. AIBU to ask her to make herself a cuppa and wait til he's at least had an hour and then I'll try to extricate myself and start packing? She thinks so...

he is only 4 months and has been in your tummy for 9, lie next him.

Firstly, she needs to fuck right off.

Secondly, you poor thing. Both of you. You must do whatever it takes to get through the day when your baby is that age. In my honest opinion (as this is aibu), I wouldn't do it long term but right now for the here and now I would do whatever helps. Best of luck

We co sleep as well so obviously would nt think twice. I love having a cheeky little chill out mumsnet whilst DS has a nap. Nothing wrong with it at all.

Second the advice about a baby carrier.My Ring Sling saved my sanity when DS was tiny! It just made a comeback over my wrap for some quick pick ups as DS has had chickenpox and has been a right old clinger!

Big notice on the door saying Go Away Poorly Baby Sleeping - would that be of use? Honestly YANBU, my strapping 14 year old asks for a bedtime cuddle when he's feeling poorly!

The time with your children is SO precious - if they can't trust you to do things to make them feel better what's the point! Well said dalek

The only thing he'll 'learn' if you take your DM's advice, is that nobody cares about him

Hope he had a lovely nap, you got some rest and he's better very soon.

Lie down with him I say! He is four months, not 14. Maybe you can get some rest as well.
DD ends up in our bed nearly every night and she is 22 months, and I got her to have a nap today by lying down with her.
Hope your move goes well.

Have you been stressing about not having packed yet etc?
Maybe she thinks you want her help.
I don't think you should ask her to wait around for an hour and then do your packing.
Just do it yourself at a time that suits you better.

I feel your pain. Mil suggested we buy formula for my ebf 12 week old today so she could feed her and practically wrestled the pram off me earlier!