to find it a bit odd that pil, always, everytime they see her, ask my dd age 7 what she wants to do when she grows up

[magicpixie]

she always replies be a mummy
every single time

they say oh no duckie you have to do something else first, so what do you want to do...
she replies with a shrug of the shoulders and I dunno

I can understand them asking, but not surely everytime

I am a sahm,youngest is only a baby, but obviously I used to work before having children

Dd1s dream is to wear a tight skirt and work for Wessex water. Cracks me up every time, said so solemnly

Eh, my brother wanted to be a pastor when he was a kid. Now he's an atheist. She's just expressing her admiration for you as a role model.

My sister (now 33) wanted to be a bunny rabbit when small and this still gets brought up on occasion

You know, you could have fun with this with a little bit of cooperation from DD. How susceptible is she to bribery by chocolate buttons?

PIL: What do you want to be?
DD: a pathologist / animal rights activist / priest /something else equally unlikely for a 7 yr old

Ah go on and report back

i think you are all right, i need to not take it the wrong way,

I honestly do not mind them asking but the frequency is a bit irritating,think you might be onto something that they struggle to find things to talk to her about so may well be that

its just the comment of
oh no duckie you have to do something else first
that irritates the most
and of course I hope she will do something before having children

I could be a bit of a cow and when dd says that, wind them up a bit and say oh yes dd, you will make a wonderful mother one day

but I will be sensible and follow your advice

thanks

Blimey they are a bit short of conversational gambits aren't they?!? They're lucky your dd keeps answering and hasn't said "you already asked me that!!"

Ask them what they wanted to be when they were 7. Don't leave your dd stranded to answer the same meaningless question over and over! Say 'I wonder what Barack Obama wanted to be when he was 7?"

Just give it a context that people of 7 have no idea what they want to 'be' .. Or, more accurately, do when they grow up.

riverland I hear what your saying, especially on the do rather than be point, totally agree

unfortuantley dd it too polite for her own good at times, and would never say, hey you asked me that last week

She's sweet, like you, probably!

I think my son, age 7, said he wanted to be "a shooter" when he grew up!

Next time they say it, and she says 'be a mummy', can you jump in and say 'and then one day, dd, you can be a granny too, just like granny, won't that be wonderful?'

That or bribe her thusly:

PIL What do you want to do when you're a grown up?
dd: Be taller.

"Next time they say it, and she says 'be a mummy', can you jump in and say 'and then one day, dd, you can be a granny too, just like granny, won't that be wonderful?'"
that just made me laugh so much my cats buggered off the sofa

river