NDN's have recently acquired a cat. I think they put her out when they leave for work in the morning, and let her back in later in the evening/night. They have no cat flap.
Since the weather has turned colder, the cat saunter through my cat flap and sit in my house all day. I don't mind, but at the same time I don't want the NDN to think I am encouraging her. I tried putting her out every time she walked in but she'd just instantly come back in.
DH thinks I'm being cruel by not feeding her, but I don't want to encourage her or let her think this is like a second home.
I don't want to change my cat flap to one of those tag accessed ones, I'm perfectly happy as it is, but AIBU to not feed the cat at all? She's very bold and demanding and she hisses and swipes at my cats, all the more reason I don't want to give her more incentive to keep coming in.