My 14 DD is having a few friends over for pizza/movie tomorrow. One of the girls (that she has not really known for long and I do not know the parents) has told my DD that she is going to take a bottle of spirits from her parents house to bring with her. My DD does not drink and does not want to (although I know some of the boys coming are allowed to drink at home).
I have told my DD to tell this girl not to bring it and to pretend it will get my DD into trouble if she does, however she is not sure this girl will listen. She does not want to appear a tell-tale so wants me to act as if I don't know, but to find a way to stop her drinking. Would I be out of order to search her bag (when she is not around) and remove the bottle and have it mysteriously re-appear just before she leaves? If not does any one have any advice on how to handle this?
I will be in and out of the room throughout the evening but will not be in there all the time so would not necessarily she her if she is putting alcohol into her soft drinks.
My DD is one of the youngest in her year so many of her friends are 15 but this is still too young to be drinking IMO.