Husband just being awkward?

[lia66]

Eldest son ( 17) and I are watching I'm a celeb last night. Husband comes home, sits down starts moaning about son wearing his new £75 American football top to "lie around all over the sofa in" here starts a mini rant about that's why son doesn't deserve nice things cos he doesn't respect them and so next time won't be getting a top. :-0
Myself and son are left agog and no amount of where am I supposed to wear it then and I'm not exactly rolling all over the garden in it makes any difference.
Who is being unreasonable?

Has he actually cottoned on to the fact that children OUTGROW clothes, clothes become unfashionable, etc, and there's absolutely no point in saving something for super special extra best that might happen twice a year?!

I know that's unreasonable but I feel that if you need to lie down you should be in bed.

Who died and made you the sofa police?

I was once married to a man who behaved like this. Or rather behaved like his own grandad. It was not a happy period of my life but it was, fortunately, a relatively brief one. However, he attempted to make all sorts of bizarre rules including rationing lavatory paper and constantly turning the heating down if anyone wasn't already wearing two jumpers. This on the grounds that "none of you are cold enough to need the heating on".

It's very tiring and no fun. I hope your DH has other redeeming qualities.

Tiring summer yes, it is tiring.

I used to live with someone like this - the amount of energy which he expended on demanding that things were done his way (usually for absolutely no reason at all other than it was his preference) was unbelievable. It took me a while to realise that it wasn't normal to insist that every radio in the house was left tuned to one person's preferred station or that leaving the jug handle facing the wrong way was not something worth going upstairs to remonstrate with someone about.
Why do you put up with it? You sound as though you might not be sure yourself....

My Mum was like this about new clothes. New clothes were for hanging in the wardrobe and not for wearing. I used to be a bit like this. So it's to do with the way you've been brought up. IMHO. And I think 17 is old enough to decide what clothes you should wear. It wasn't as if he was mud wrestling.

It's just the latest in a long list of things.

I didn't stick up for ds even though I wanted to because it feels like every time dh moans to the kids I disagree with him. and most other things

Don't pander to your H. Laugh at him. Tell him not to be a prick. Ignore his 'rules'. He's been bullying the rest of you for long enough.

If you think he does have redeeming features and you want to work on improving the relationship, you could pick a time when he's in a reasonable mood and sit him down and say: you are not the boss of the household. Stop telling everyone else what to do. Relax.

But getting rid of him sounds like the best option.,

SGB

I've tried laughing at him, this really pisses him off as it undermines his authority in front of the kids.

He does refer to our home as "my house, I'll do what I like"

Sigh.

Miserable fucker.

Bin him, he sounds rubbish.

He does refer to our home as "my house, I'll do what I like" Tell you hope it includes all his cooking, washing and cleaning of his house

Tell you hope and in English Hope you tell him

So not yours or the dc house ? What a prick !