To not want my husband to call me

[Girl33]

Idiot, moron, cretin or b*tch??
I am a stay at home mum and my confidence is low as it is. I ask him to stop but he thinks it's funny and a joke. Have I lost my sense of humour or is this hurtful?

It's completely unreasonable and certainly emotional abuse. Anyone who called me those names would have been shown the door long ago. Also, it is an extremely poor example to show to your ds. Do you want him growing up thinking it is acceptable to treat women with such contempt?

You haven't lost your sense of humour because this isn't remotely funny.

Not OK. When you said stop he should have.

It's not ok. It's not funny. It's abusive.

Do not follow well meaning advice on this thread to call him names back. This will solve nothing. It will simply bring you down to his level. And you are so, so much better than that.

Please talk to someone in rl. Or Women's Aid.

What do you do when he calls you a moron or a bitch? Do you adjust your attitude until he finds something else moronic about you?
Please don't buy into the good father bit,a good father does not call the mother names.

"Never happy with anything" wtf, because you don't like being called a cretin or a bitch? No matter how generous he is with money or how good he is with your DS (and on that issue I'd echo what PP's have said in that being so disrespectful to the mother of his child is at odds with being a good or even adequate parent) he is being abusive and you don't have to put up with this.

He is okay with you being upset.

OP

You know your DH is in the wrong here and you should not put up with it. He is most certainly not a good father if he thinks it is OK to call his Mother (or anyone) those names. Great role model he is (not).

A joke? Funny?

Anyone who thinks it's amusing to call their DP/DW/DH or anyone, those terms should have them applied to their own personality, especially if they think the recipient is simply being oversensitive to be upset or offended.

What do you mean 'generous with money'? It's equally yours, not his to be 'generous' with.

I mean, you're the one with 'responsibility' for your child, in the same way that he has 'responsibility' for earning money out of the home. Do you see your child as 'yours' to be 'generous' with? Do you allow your H two cuddles a day unless he's annoyed you, in which case you call him a cretin? No. Would he feel fine about you having a wee 'joke' along those lines? I doubt it.

Tell you what, tomorrow morning, get ready before he's up and leave the house. Text to say that as a card-carrying 'cretin', you think it's best you don't have sole care for your child, he wouldn't want to leave him with an 'idiot', would he? Let him sort it out, and you go have a day off.

I would be careful about calling names back simply because it might escalate the situation. The last thing you want at the moment is a physical confrontation to erupt.

This is not okay behaviour from him. Have you spoken to anyone at Womens Aid? 0808 2000 247