to not call my friend when i got into labour

[ghostspirit]

its a long way of yet. but my friend wants me to call her when im in labour so im not on my own. To be honest would rather be on my own. would it be unreasonable just to not call her.

Tell her it was very kind of her to offer but you are happy having just you and the midwife at the birth. If she tries to push it just repeat the above.

Don't let her think she is going to be your birth support and then not call her. That's a bit unkind.

It sounds more like your friend wants to join in with the excitement, rather than her wanting to provide the help that you might actually want!

So, she might not answer the phone if you call at 'silly o'clock', she would remind you forever and a day if you don't shave your legs, she'd want to be in the room with you and not provide childcare, which could actually be useful...

Honestly, this sounds more about her wanting to feel she was 'there' not about her actually being any use.

I'd be telling her that actually you're planning on doing it alone, have dd there on hand if you need anything, but will call her if you feel you want someone else to be involved.

I think AMum has hit the nail squarely on the head.
Is your friend a bit of a drama llama OP?

Just don't call her. In the end, it turned out that it happened so fast you didn't have time, right?

If she's going to judge you for stubbly legs, you won't want her in having an eyeful of whatever state you've let your minge get in by 40 weeks!

lol normastits that made me laugh.... Amum yes thats very true. why did i complicate it so much haha. :)

Can't see any other replies as the mobile site is playing up but yanbu, just tell her you'd rather be alone. Or if she won't take no for an answer, 'forget' to call her.

Are you sure you want to be alone though? Is there anyone else you can ask?

yes im sure i want to be alone. i kind of enjoy it more that way. probably very odd. but last time it was just kind of nice :)

Just tell her what you want. Its your labour!

it's not odd, I did it on my own. Couldn't think of anything worse than being in pain, whilst having people I don't know shoving fingers up my fanny every so often being all sweaty and what not. For me I didn't want people 1 seeing my like that. and 2 I hate people around me when I'm in pain asking me if I'm alright.

You'll be fine :)

Just tell her afterwards you thought you were just having Brixton hicks and were surprised the baby came

Thankyou sure i will be not like i have not done it before.

betsy that could kind of end up being true. i think my last birth was about 20-30 mins