To feel frustrated and helpless

[Frustratedwithfriend]

For a long time it's been obvious friend is in a dysfunctional and abusive relationship. She would always leap to his defence and it wasn't so bad and she could handle him and so on.

She had a baby a few months ago and finally seemed to twig things weren't right. She had planned to leave him in the NY and I was (I must admit) relieved.

Then just seen a pregnancy scan picture on his Facebook and I know she won't leave him now.

I just feel really upset both with and for her.

I've been in a similar situation with my sister. I know that feeling of frustration at seeing someone in a bad relationship.
In my own experience you can only be there for her, let her know you are there to turn to. Only she can decide to leave

I too have been in this situation with my younger sister. There's nothing you can do other than be there for her.

It is very frustrating as you want to protect them and help but you can't until they make that move. Hopefully your friend will be able to do so one day.

Luckily my sister managed to leave and the difference is astounding, but years of physical, verbal, financial and emotional abuse have left their mark.

Thanks. I'm upset as I really thought she'd managed to leave him this time or at least put a plan in place.

Just be there to pick up the pieces without judgement, however long it takes