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To think I should not clean up people's dog poo

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raltheraffe · 13/11/2014 18:12

About a month ago a disabled friend of DH said he wanted his home cleaning. DH asked me to do it as I run a contract firm and I reluctantly agreed. DH had been led to believe this was a one-off clean. As it was a friend of DH I agreed to do it at a reduced rate. I used to run a domestic cleaning firm but closed the firm down as I did not enjoy it, so now I do commercial only.
I turned up and did the 2 hours as arranged and then DHs friend asked me to come back next week. I was a bit annoyed about this as I do not like doing private houses and had really done it as a favour.
Went back next week and he wanted 3 hours I did at the reduced rate.
Went back today and when I got in he said that the dog had made "a bit of a mess" in the kitchen. Went in kitchen and there were 6 poos and 5 wees. Clearly the dog had been kept in the kitchen for some time to allow this amount of waste to accumulate.
I point blank refused to clean it and so he did it but made a big issue out of the fact his disability is playing up and this is very difficult for him.
He placed all the excrement in the kitchen bin and said he still wanted the bin cleaning out.
I personally view this as majorly taking the piss. Although he is disabled he is able to let the dog into the back garden to allow it to do its business. Judging by the amount of mess the dog must have been kept in there for over 24 hours (I have 2 dogs and so tried to guestimate the length of time the poor dog had been locked in there).
Now considering not going back. Feel like a good deed has become a duty and he is taking the piss.
Please tell me if you think I am a heartless cow, I appreciate frank feedback.

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samithesausage · 14/11/2014 13:20

Does he need adult social services help? It sounds a little bit like it. He's disabled, moans about how hard it is for him. It's probably time for you to say no, and give him some useful numbers.
He may be desperate to get the house clean, but he shouldn't be hoarding his urine and he needs to make some effort himself, or get some external help.

raltheraffe · 14/11/2014 13:23

I think he is getting help but not sure. One week when I went round someone from the housing association was there surveying the property and making it better adapted to his disability.

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DuchessofNorks · 14/11/2014 19:48

You need to stop cleaning for this man. He will just keep pushing your limits . YANBU!

Vycount · 14/11/2014 19:53

Stop going and tell him why. Report him to the RSPCA as well as he's obviously unable to care for his dog properly.

raltheraffe · 14/11/2014 19:55

Had a long chat with DH today who agrees he is taking the piss and I should stop.

I clarified the one off/regular clean situation with DH today and he definitely told DH it was a one off job, hence me offering a very cheap rate.

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getdownshep · 14/11/2014 19:56

Poor dog, please call the RSPCA.
I agree you are in a difficult position but that dog needs someone to help itSad

raltheraffe · 14/11/2014 19:57

I really pity that poor dog. She is incredibly nervous. When I turned the vacuum on she shot off cowering in a corner shaking. He just laughed and said he used to chase her around with the vac when he was more able bodied. Not fucking funny.

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getdownshep · 14/11/2014 20:02

He sounds like a right nasty bastardAngry No wonder no one wants to do his cleaning.
I'm really upset thinking about that poor dog.

raltheraffe · 14/11/2014 20:06

Yes and he has weapons in the house including what I thought was a replica gun.

I was making the bed and saw it poking out from under the bed so got it and examined it. It is clearly not a real gun, but I had to examine it closely to work it out and if it got waved at me at a distance I would think it was a real one.

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Tiptops · 14/11/2014 20:06

Are you going to do anything about the poor dog OP? Sad

raltheraffe · 14/11/2014 20:07

My friend works for the RSPCA and is a trainee inspector so I can ask her. Unfortunately I doubt the RSPCA will do anything. I once reported what I believe is a puppy farm on some allotments to them and they did jack shit.

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