Is this odd,or am I out of touch?

[Cyclopsbee]

I am prepared to be flamed but just want some opinions really cos I think it's abit odd,
Can I firstly say that I don't have Facebook and can't think of a reason why I would want to put my life 'on show' and share silly things like what I've had for lunch etc etc but that's just me old fogey

DS and his girlfriend (both 16) have Facebook as does my DD (24)
My DD passed comment that she thought it was weird that DS girlfriends mother always posts comments on their pages with things like 'loving your choice of boyfriend' and shares photos of them etc,
DS once posted that he was supporting a friend whose parents were divorcing and GF mother comments 'if you want to talk about it I'm here'

DD says it's strange and why doesn't she have friends her own age?

They have a lot of mutual friends as both our families belong to the same sports club and she seems to be friends with a lot of the teenagers.

Is it odd or am I behind the times? ( the mother and myself are both almost 50)

I find it a bit odd, but then again, there are a load of weirdo's on FB, it's like their mecca!

It's 'normal' for a lot of people. I really wouldn't worry about it. Just because the mother does this, it doesn't mean she doesn't have her own friends as well, they're not mutually exclusive.

my MIL wades in with all sorts of crap on my DDs' friends' stuff... makes her look a bit weird to be honest..

you can try telling her that they don't need her opinion, but she sees EVERYTHING that comes up on her newsfeed as being meant personally for her....

Agree- not mutually exclusive. I have younger friends, but don't comment much as I don't want to embarrass them- but then I don't comment much, or post much anyway. I know some people have been driven off by embarrassing mothers who tell them how much they love them etc.

it seems to be quite normal among lots of my 16 year old sister's friends, i wouldn't worry about it.

My sons won't have me as a friend- they don't run the risk - this is probably why I am very careful about any comments.

I think it's just facebook. Some peoples parents like to be overly involved in their child's friends/relationships. Facebook allows it, the boundary lines blur.

Does it matter if it's odd? I can't see it hurting anyone.

It's quite commen op and can be hilarious. If I were you I would join fb so you can read and enjoy.

Overly involved adults in their children's lives are often unintentionally hilarious.

Even though I'm the kind of cool aunty I'm not that cool to post on my teenager nieces and nephews facebook status. I like the odd random photo or status but thats it. don't nor want everyone's friends kids on my Facebook either.

I know a young woman driven off by her mother posting 'good night my darling girl'!

Awww have a heart - I think its great she is engaging on social media. Why the hell not??

Ahem: some people might consider posting on Mumsnet "odd".

You're not behind the times, you are just not on Facebook. It was originally for young people to keep in touch while at university, it now seems to be the domain of middle aged and older women nosing what is going on in their families lives. MIL (75) is an avid user, one good reason for me and DH not to be on facebook

It's hilarious when the older generation are all over Facebook- except when it's my mum......

She lets no stone go unturned nor any Facebook post go unliked.

I think it is the "news-feed" thing - it comes to THEM, they think it is personal to THEM - like email..

they would feel rude not replying to an email, and treat facebook the same, no matter if it is a friend of a friend etc.....

Thanks people, glad others think it's a little odd but harmless, tbh I don't know where she gets the time or inclination, I don't think DS would be my friend if I had Facebook
DS says mumsnet is Facebook for the oldies the mother may be a mumsnetter, who knows! think she's more suited to Netmums

Lol, my aunt is a bit like that, I had to get mum to have a sit down with her about not putting pictures of DD on facebook and connecting them to me as I'm trying to keep DD off facebook for the most part until she's old enough to make the decision herself. But she still comments on basically every post my sister or I make on facebook...

I think it's kind of weird, but I would also never post a comment like your ds did about supporting a friend! To me that's overly personal. So basically I think Facebook is just weird!

"Mumsnet is Facebook for oldies"?! Give your son a good talking to OP, I'm only 24 :(

But I spend a lot more time on mumsnet than Facebook, much more entertaining over here with all the oldies

Erm enough of the ageist comments, thank you

canwe I know! I don't get the stuff people post! this mother has IBS and shares, what I think is far TMI about it so all and sundry can see......nowt as strange as folk! So they say

And don't worry, I told him very clearly that mumsnet is defo not for the aged population and if we post something personal at least we are anonymous

"Mumsnet is defo not for the aged population"

Define aged, OP?

Perhaps the mum in question likes to describe herself as 'best friends' with her offspring. At any rate she probably has her own circle of friends and contemporaries. It doesn't mean she's weird just blurring boundaries.

I'm not on FB but if I were, am quite sure my DCs would block me from seeing anything of interest.

Not on FB (and not feeling inclined to join as MN is full of folk moaning about it) ...

so i really don't understand ...

why would you make posts on FB and then be surprised when some folk (always?) comment on them? If you've accepted someone as a friend on FB surely you know they are going to see everything you post and perhaps comment. How do you know when is it acceptable to comment and when not? Why join this huge network of friends of friends and sharing everything and then be surprised/grumpy about getting comments?

genuinely.