to be upset that my mum didn't ask DH to do this work for her?

[Ilovetobiteyourneck]

MY DH is a handyman, my mum is having a new patio put in. DH has done loads of patio's in the past, but instead of asking him to do it, my mum has got in a couple of other guys.

Added to this, she knows that although we are not struggling as such, my income (the main household income) has been cut by about half this year compared to last year (I'm self employed).

AIBU to be upset that she didn't ask DH to do the work? Surely families should stick together and support each other?

I asked her why she hadn't asked DH to do it and she said it was because she wanted it doing NOW. DH could have done it now. It's November, even if he couldn't, it's not like it's the bbq season is it?

BIL trained as an electrician, but I wouldn't even ask him to change a lightbulb.

YABU. Completely her decision and you're assuming loads.

Whilst my DP does odd bits of electrical work for my mum, she gets in others to do major jobs. I don't think it's a good idea having family do work on your house.

Agree with Thrif I wouldn't think of a handyman as someone who could lay a patio (I know you said your DH has done it before but if I was paying I would want a professional. Jack of all trades and that)

At least he isn't doing unpaid work for family. Getting so bored of all the 'favours' dh is asked to do for his family in exchange for a £6 bottle of wine.

He calls himself a handyman Thrif and itiswhat but he does loads of different things (thought that was what a handyman meant, Jack of all trades? Do we need to get new business cards?), including car servicing and fixing boat engines!

If you knew my mum, you'd know that she never raves about anything to do with my house... that why I described what was probably just a compliment as 'raved' :)
I'm 100% it's not because she thinks he'd do a bad job.

What am I assuming UncleT? I'm simply upset that my mum hasn't put some work our way.

Hello fellow Cornishperson BadRoly!

Yes, that's my point Ilove. I'd want an expert/specialist, not a jack of all trades.

I wouldn't want him to service my car either.

Oh ok Thrif....

Maybe she was doorstepped by a salesman and got carried away?

Maybe she thought your DH would insist on doing it at a discount as it is family and that your house hold income would be better of he could get a properly paying job in the same period.
I also agree that family & business don't mix.