48 hour d+v policy. What's the point of it?

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If people ignore it/lie and send their dc in anyway?

AIBU to complain bitterly to the school about this, ask them to send out letters again stating the policy and then actually enforce it rather than believe the crap some parents come up with to avoid keeping their dcs at home?

A child in dd2s class was sick yesterday morning, sent home but apparently 'fine' today??? I was told that he didn't have a bug and had just "drunk too much water/eaten too much"

I'm livid. Dd2 has diabetes and a sickness bug would mean her being hospitalised. Why can't people stick to the rules?

Of course not grocklebox. Vomiting as part of some other condition aside from a bug is not a problem. I was angry about the child in dds class whose parents openly admitted they thought it was a bug at first but then decided it wasn't. If the doubt was there they should have kept them off just in case.

So those parents can't make a decision, based on their knowledge of their own child? That's hardly fair! If I kept DD off every time she vommed she'd hardly have been at school (she has CMPI)

Can't your mum or sister pop round while you run the well ones to school?

No I think the child should have been kept off school as the parents said they were not sure at first.

So, DD vomms. I'm not sure if it's a bug or not, but I then realise she ate a sausage at a friend's house and send her on.

I should have kept her off?

The way society functions, we have accepted this lifestyle bof not stopping to heal from illness. Most parents can't afford to stop. I remember being a lone parent and having to bring my puking then 6 year old to work with me. It was awful. There was no cover for me and I had no one and I mean not a soul to help with the care if a sick child. I grew up with a parent who suffered from a compromised immune system and I can't stand seeing kids back at school the day after they puked all over the school hall. If a parent can't stay home and help their exhausted child fully recover, they should. Kids should come before work, always. Sometimes logistics don't allow for this sadly. Now I am a SAHM and I feel lucky to be able to follow the 48 hour rule. I abide by it because a) I believe in it and b) because I can. But I sympathise for working parents. There is just so little support.

My mum works full time and my dsis although helps sometimes is unreliable as has epilepsy and is never really good in the mornings. She also doesn't drive so it would nt be an option.

Can't you send the well ones in a taxi?

Well either you want a blanket policy of enforced 48 hour rule or you don't, you've said both now. Which is it?

Sensible parents can make the decision for themselves and should be able to do so.
Idiots will always do stupid things and there is fuck all you can do about it.
So it's just tough.
And I say this as the parent of the only child I've ever heard of having 5 days in hospital with hand foot and mouth! It's what you have to accept about school.

Not if dh is at work or ill himself as they can't go in a taxi alone

Can't you put them all in a taxi and you go with them?

What I would like is for school to enforce their policy for all children except ones known to have a medical condition causing non contagious episodes of vomiting.

And as I said they don't need to for the vast majority of people and they can't for the others.
So its kinda tough.

But if dh is at work how can I then either leave an ill dc on their own ? Most taxis I can't fit all four in plus double buggy etc and I can't sometimes physically manage them all plus car seats etc. it can be impossible. It really depends who is ill what it is etc etc these a lot to consider and it is often better for dcs just to stay in.

Its not the issue though. We have a system that works and allows us to keep ill dc/s at home and others too if necessary and the school are ok with this.

Bugger that Hedgehog - why should my child miss school because she ate too much fish and chips and was sick? And tbh, how on earth would school know (it was a Saturday night and she was fine). DS also threw up once after too much shit food at my IL's house then a car journey home. Again, there's no way he'd miss school because of it.

There are ways around the problem - it seems to me like no matter what suggestions will be made you have a reason why they won't work.

We have a system that is working fine for us, why do I need to find an alternative solution when we have the backing of dcs consultants and agreement of the schools/pre school who know us very well and our circumstances? Dcs attendance at school was not why I started this thread.

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Because your solution is not attending to the needs of all your children? Maybe you should consider home schooling?

In my kids school not in the uk. There is no 48hr rule it is just left up to the parents. As the kids are all together most things are infectus before a child vomits anyway so others have already been exposed. I was concerned at first but then I have noticed that kids seam to get sick less often than they did in the uk.

Last year ds2 got two rounds of d&v and was also so excited at his Xmas party that he vomited then too. On all three occasions I followed the rules and kept him off 48hrs.

Then I get a snotty letter from the Attendance Officer insinuating that I am not taking his educations seriously, that I am remiss in my parenting duties, that she would be forced to take matters further if his attendance didn't improve.

I'm not easily intimidated and phoned her up to clarify matters but I can see how other parents, who may have had bad experiences with school, would think twice about keeping their children off school.

A child could have been vom all of Saturday for any number of reasons, even unexplained. If the child is fine on Sunday do you think he/she should miss school on a Monday and the parent take a day of leave unpaid?
A parent will make their own judgement and unfortunately that may impact your child but really it may not be their priority.

I am attending to the needs of all my children and doing the best I can. Sometimes I have to prioritise and make decisions accordingly taking into account many,many factors that you have no idea about.
Its easy to sit in judgement and think it could be done differently/better but you are not me and you have no idea what we are up against and we are trying our best.
The dcs go to school as often as we can get them there dd1 has 94% attendance, ds1 currently 81%, dd2 probably around 50% I think and ds2 has only started pre school this week. When dd2 is in school iam having to do four trips there and back each day.you have no idea.

Educations ... pah...