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to not want her to come round again?

39 replies

ChoochiWoo · 06/11/2014 16:14

Yesterday a woman (middle aged) and im assuming her mum, came to view the house well turned up at my house with no warning to me, no Est. Agent as far as I was aware Wednesday has been suggested we'd said no and Saturday was agreed on. Well apparently there had been some crossed wires, my kids were both really ill as well so unfortunately O wasn't in a position to let her pop in and I explained this, well that was it, the abuse gates opened , its all my fault , (it wasnt even remotely) i said sorry for wasted time shes fine to come back at weekend, "don't be so stupid im self employed can't keep taking days off!!!!,.oh you're unbeliveable fuckin timewaster ive come all the way here" i said to her as far as we were aware it was Saturday, and my kids were poorly anyway, i shut the window sick of the tantrum and she tried opening the back garden gate to go in, i heard and opened the window again, aghast at the nerve but they went eventually. Btw im renting, having to move soon, after reporting the mix up and horrendous behaviour to the EA , she said there was no agreed time and shouldn't have come but will be coming back, .HmmShockSad give me strength. ...AIBU to think her behaviour was unacceptable therefore shouldn't be allowed to? At least until we leave.

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Jolleigh · 06/11/2014 20:10

I'd not let her in at all. Tell the EA that she was abusive and tried to force access. Log the incident with the police, give them the EA's contact details and hopefully someone will be round to have a word with the vile woman about attempting to enter someone's home uninvited and intimidation.

Bearbehind · 06/11/2014 20:13

Just thinking about this- in the interests of don't get mad, get even- I'd let her view the proprry, accompanied by the EA, then ring your landlord and tell them she's a fucking nutter!

No landlord will want someone that highly strung as a tenant- so she'll lose out in the end and have wasted even more time

fredfredgeorgejnr · 06/11/2014 20:16

If it was me, it would be no more viewings of any sort, no access by EA of any sort, unless the landlord wanted to make up for their EA's failures.

YANBU, and do not accept any more viewings, and inform the EA they are not allowed any access.

Mulligrubs · 06/11/2014 20:42

I would not allow any viewings at all in your shoes. I agree with fredfred 100%

Bearbehind · 06/11/2014 20:46

What will not allowing any viewing achieve? A bad reference from your previous landlord when looking for a new property.....

ChoochiWoo · 06/11/2014 20:46

But can i do that legally?

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ChoochiWoo · 06/11/2014 20:47

My fear exactly bear

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Bearbehind · 06/11/2014 20:49

Check your tenancy agreement OP but it's very likely to state you have to allow viewings within a certain timeframe of you leaving.

At the end of the day, if you refuse there's not a great deal your landlord can do about it except give you a bad reference.

It depends what your future plans are.

TheDogsMissingBollock · 06/11/2014 20:53

Normally should be 24 hrs notice and only in last 2 months of tenancy. That is reasonable,

herethereandeverywhere · 06/11/2014 21:35

There are provisions in your lease which deal with this. There will be a general 'quiet enjoyment' clause but there is usually some stuff about allowing reasonable access so they can re-let the property.

I am sure that for so long that it is your home then the EA cannot allow people in without YOUR express permission. You would need to behaving unreasonably (ie: continuously refuse access/ turn away EA repeatedly at the door) for you to be in any way in trouble or in the wrong.

A similar thing happened to me when I was renting (EA came round with viewers without my prior permission, I was in the shower and they walked in on me) I went ABSOLUTELY APE SHIT [in an icy cool but fierce way] at the EA Head Office and threatened legal action against the Landlord for breach of lease if they dared come round without my permission again. It worked.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 07/11/2014 00:28

I agree with Bear. It's usually something like you have to agree to viewings during the last month of the tenancy with reasonable notice. I'd let the EA do it when you're out. No skin off your nose really.

Vycount · 07/11/2014 08:55

I am a landlord. Yes, the contracts have a clause about allowing viewings. In practice I've found that wasn't worth the paper it was written on. Define "reasonable notice" if the tenant constantly claims it's not reasonable for them. However - this woman behaved in a way that Op should really be reporting to the police as threatening behaviour. So I'm not saying refuse all viewings, I'm saying refuse this one and do it in writing stating why.
I've never been asked to provide a reference for an ex-tenant in 10 years of being a landlord by the way.
Op, if you don't believe this ring Shelter today. Don't rely on the internet for advise that is legally sensitive and important to you.

fredfredgeorgejnr · 07/11/2014 10:03

You do not have to let anyone into your home, regardless of what your tenancy says. Obviously it's nice to let people in, as much for the potential tenants as your landlord, there's generally no reason to refuse reasonable access.

The problem here is the landlord has chosen an incompetent agent, and the agent has failed to control the woman, so because of that, I think you should not allow an EA attend again, and certainly do not allow it when not present, they tell people to attend whenever!

ChoochiWoo · 07/11/2014 13:44

Sorry late reply, thanks v. Much for the replies, I think I will attempt to put a vito on that woman returning, but not be difficult with others , with good notice of course. I feel its the best course of action in this instance.

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