To go or not to go

[Mell1ssa]

My SIL has just celebrated her 40th & didn't want a party, went away for the weekend instead (which is exactly what I did, don't blame her). However she's now invited family & friends to her local at the weekend to celebrate belatedly. No children are allowed. As we rely on family to babysit & they're all going to be at this 'do' this effectively means that only one of us is invited, the other will have to stay at home with our son. Should I go alone, just to put in an appearance, or stay at home with my family?

Or get ds to have a sleepover?

Some 13 years olds are ok to be left alone, some are not. OP has stated that she would rather not leave DS alone for a time late at night.

OP - if you want to go, why dont you pop along for an hour or 2, if its close and then you have 'done your duty'

I wouldn't feel you 'have' to go - if you'd prefer not to just say 'sorry - we have something else on that night'.

If you want to go - clarify that you can't take your ds. If it's a pub they may have rules about under 18s especially after 9pm so could be that rather than SIL.

If he definitely can't go then could you go for an hour or two and phone him? Then you could show your face, have a drink and be home well before midnight?

I think it is absolutely fine for you not to go because you don't want to leave a 13 year old home alone. I is entirely a matter of what you/he are happy with. BUT I think your family may comment adversely because you will be perceived by them as acting unreasonably.

If he were mine, and I wanted to go with OH, I would try and arrange a sleepover.

I would leave a 13 year old at home. You can just go gp have a couple of drinks and come home early. Or don't go. Up to you. really not seeing the issue