to be so, so angry my tiny, sweet, kind, 5 yo dd is being bullied

[GaryShitpeas]

there is a boy in dds class who is bullying her, verbal abuse, name calling etc but today it turned physical and he kicked her. the other day she told me that he said " I am going to get my whole family to beat you up" i mean for s start, wtf world do we live in where a 4/5 YO kid even says that??

i am so angry. I have an appointment to see her teacher tomorrow and they better do something or I will take her out of the school.

she really is so sweet and kind, she is quiet, clever, has lots of friends and wouldn't hurt a fly. i asked why she hadnt told anyone until now and she said she is scared of him. and why has no one noticed?? and why is he picking on her? what has she done? :(

GaryShitpeas I wish my mother had been more like you - you are great!

Heartbreaking. You will just have to be "one of those parents" if that's what it takes. I hope if you require another meeting it will be carried out more professionally, doesn't exactly give much reassurance!

If being 'one of those parents' gets your daughter the protection she needs then be one of those parents. Your number 1 priority is your daughter and if they end up hating you who cares so long as they're doing what she needs them to do.

I am so sorry for you and your DD.

I was bullied mercilessly throughout my childhood, and greatly fear it happening to my DD when she gets older.

I think you're handling it brilliantly. If it really gets out of hand, go to the Head, then further (Ofstead? Sorry I'm not in the UK) because it's obviously affecting other children too.

I agree with what everyone says...be "one of those" parents if necessary. I worked in a few different schools and childcare settings and it is definitely a case of the squeaky wheel getting the grease. They don't want parents pulling out kids and telling people why. They will try to make you happy.

So sorry for you and your DD, it is a terrible feeling. My 4yo DS was bullied in Nursery and it was so hard. The school didn't really know what to do. I feel like they think I'm 'one of those parents' too (he's in the attached Reception now and we're still on at them about monitoring it) but I draw strength from knowing that I'm doing the right thing for my son. Hope things work out for you and the school deal with it well. Hopefully your DD will start to have a better time soon for you.