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AIBU to be upset over birthday card?

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GoTheDistance · 31/10/2014 21:08

Probably sounds really stupid but my fiancé bought me a card that says "girlfriend"...it's obviously a card from the corner shop and I got upset because I have always said that I prefer cards over presents, I keep all sentimental cards and spend ages finding and writing the perfect cards...it's not just that it has "girlfriend" rather than "fiancée", it's also the fact that it was obviously a last minute purchase with little effort put in. AIBU and ungrateful or would this bother anyone else?

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6031769 · 31/10/2014 23:10

my first mothers day card from my DS said 'happy mothers day to my nan', that pissed me off.

A girlfriend card wouldn't bother me but i'm not really a cards person.

SisterMoonshine · 31/10/2014 23:20

You're right...
it sounds really stupid.

GoTheDistance · 31/10/2014 23:48

Thanks for all your opinions Smile normally he makes a lot of effort with a card and present but this year we agreed no presents as we will put the money towards our wedding so I was surprised that he didn't make more effort with the card...ah well, at least I got one- it could have been worse!

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NormaStits · 01/11/2014 00:14

I would have said yabu, but if you agreed no presents and he knows you value a nice card, he should have put a bit more effort into the card.

BackforGood · 01/11/2014 00:33

YABU.
You got a card, which wasn't incorrect.
Most people just don't put that amount of emotional energy into choosing a card. Your fiance is just part of the vast majority of the population. If you want to- so be it, that's up to you, but he isn't you (as someone put far more eloquently upthread).

ScrambledEggAndToast · 01/11/2014 00:58

@bigbluestars GrinGrinGrin I would have pissed myself at that. Men are terrible for things like that.

Canyouforgiveher · 01/11/2014 01:41

my first mothers day card from my DS said 'happy mothers day to my nan', that pissed me off.

My first mother's day card from my ds said "you've been like a mother to me"

I still tease dh about it 17 years later.

OP there are a lot of things you can get upset about and of course your feelings are valid but if the relationship is otherwise good then I wouldn't stress too much over cards. lots of people don't think too hard - or even at all - about cards so don't give the right one.

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