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AIBU?

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To ask if anyone has ever seen a thread about themself on here?

99 replies

ListObsessed · 30/10/2014 09:51

Haven't been on here for all that long and was wondering whether there have ever been any cases of people recognising themselves in a thread and announcing their presence. It would make excellent entertainment for the rest of us. I live in fear of an AIBU about me mainly because I'm a teacher.

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cherrytree63 · 31/10/2014 08:13

On another parenting forum, yes. One of my bed rest patients asked me to make her a cup of tea using her special mug and her teabag. As she wanted it strong I left it brewing in the kitchen, went to do something else, then I was going on a training day. I completely forgot about the tea until one of my colleagues asked me if I'd forgotten something....and showed me the thread the lady had started about me.
I rushed back in our tea break and the mug wasn't there, and the poor lady was really upset as it had sentimental value.
I got quite a slating on the thread!

joanofarchitrave · 31/10/2014 14:01

I am now sure you are the Queen, Pasithea [curtsey]

CallMeExhausted · 31/10/2014 19:04

Not an entire thread, but definitely snide, cutting and vile comments within a thread - exposing some very personal details (about my children, not me...)

I ended up re-registering with an entirely different user name, abandoning the old one and leaving one of the boards where I had been an active participant entirely.

Oh, and ending all contact with the individual in question in the real world (and online).

I wish her well.

VivaLeBeaver · 31/10/2014 19:07

Someone started a thread about me years ago. I recognised myself immediately. It wasnt overly complementary. I used to teach teenagers quite a specialist course. Only 3 such courses and teachers in the country. She mentioned the course so I knew there was a 1 in 3 chance it was about me.

Searched her other threads and knew which one of the students it was. Can't remember the details. Think she was annoyed about something I'd said in class

I didnt say anything either on the thread or in real life.

ClaudetteWyms · 31/10/2014 20:57

I recognised myself on a thread a while back. It was not nice at all. And a lot of it was projection, speculation, or simply made up - which shows how much you should believe on here!

I didn't say anything on the thread or in RL. I still see her around but keep well out of her way in RL now as I obviously know she really doesn't like me.

Galvanized · 31/10/2014 22:27

I'm sure my only RL friend who knows I MN must recognise some of the personal posts I write under another name but can't bring myself to ask her. We don't live in the same town any more so a small part of me doesn't mind.

Wowthishurtsalot · 31/10/2014 23:53

I've asked for (and had) a thread pulled before because it was basically a lengthy bitch and telling of lies about me. THey got pulled up by other posters thankfully but the thread stood for some time.

Mrsstarlord · 31/10/2014 23:55

Wow! I thought there would be two or three but there are lots, as someone else has said, goes to show that social media isn't as anonymous as we think.

peasandlove · 01/11/2014 01:06

who thinks social media is anonymous?

wickedwitchofwaterloo · 01/11/2014 01:41

I had an entire thread dedicated to my name change, a poster felt IWBVVVVU because my new name shortened to the same three letters, and the first two words of mine were the same as the first and third of hers.

Notfootball · 01/11/2014 01:56

Very recently a thread was started whose title identified something I had told the OP about. I was mentioned (not by name nor negatively) in the thread and it was interesting watching it unfold, mainly because she was being egged on and also because she had embellished it.

The title was so identifiable that I could not believe that she wasn't worried that some of the people involved were not MNetters.

BlameItOnTheBogey · 01/11/2014 02:09

I recognised a situation I was part of described on here for people's entertainment. I was pretty staggering actually. It was also so completely identifiable and the OP was utterly scathing about some of the other people there. I can't believe she didn't at least change some of the details. Odd to get an insight into someone's thoughts like that. She'd seemed to normal beforehand but her post was odd.

toastedmarshmallow · 01/11/2014 02:19

I was recognised on a TES thread.

My own fault, I gave a lot of identifying details and my username on there uses my initials. I was asking for advice about a difficult work situation. The person who recognised me sent me a pm and they were very nice. They said they didn't know me they had 'heard of me', I thought I was very anonymous and boring!

It has made me realise that it is impossible to be anonymous on forums and I'm a bit more vague about what I post on here(not that I post much.)

wickedlazy · 01/11/2014 03:33

The only person who knows I use mn is my dp. Who doesn't seem to grasp what mn is... Also no clue what a blog is etc lol. I don't think anyone else I know uses mn, but they could. If I saw a thread about me I would obviously try and find out who it was irl and contact them directly. If it was about a friend or relative, I would show them and let them deal with it.

EBearhug · 01/11/2014 03:36

I'm sure that anyone who knows me fairly well IRL will know it's me over the course if a few threads. That doesn't include the people I first met elsewhere online, because I use pretty much the same username and have never name-changed.

Haven't noticed any threads about me, but I can be remarkably unobservant at times, plus there's a limit to the amount of threads I can read. I suspect mostly I am neither badly-behaved nor helpful enough to be thread-worthy and so I haven't actually missed any. Which is okay by me.

Onedropoflove · 01/11/2014 04:10

I don't know anyone who comes on here in rl. Even when I've recommended threads that relate to what's going on in their life's at the moment they don't come on and look for advice. Most of them respond that they haven't got time.

Thickskinned1 · 01/11/2014 12:25

My Sil A saw herself on here. She was being posted about by another Sil B. She told me about it. She had searched on the posters name and found out loads about Sil B financial problems , her personal life and her problems ttc. Unfortunately she couldn't keep it to herself and told Sil B she saw her on mumsnet. Yes Sil B did post something about Sil A but it in fairness it could of been out about anyone. Sil was so horrified that personal problems were known about she went to ground and has become a recluse. Sil A refuses to speak or look at her and Sil B avoids anything family related now. I feel sorry for her and try to meet her when I can but she feels so depressed about being outed. She thinks everyone knows her private life now as Sil B will have spread it a bit. Her child is suffering because she had become so reclusive. I tell her to hold her head up high and not to worry about it. I think it was bad form for the other Sil to out her when a little annon pm would have sufficed . She knows she shouldn't have posted about her Sil but in fairness most of m netters use it for ranting or talking about people under an anonymous name.

DarkHeart · 01/11/2014 13:03

Yes someone wrote a thread about me and awfully I had treated them. They actually left out a number of very significant points (as they do often when trying to gain sympathy off others) - they got a huge amount of support but mostly meaningless as no one had the real picture. I did confront them about it but it wasn't very effective as they are so self absorbed

LittleBairn · 01/11/2014 13:14

Thicks that's really sad.

OiGiveItBack · 01/11/2014 13:20

..and this is why I namechange every few day. I also change details in my posts quite a bit.

Alisvolatpropiis · 01/11/2014 13:26

No. But I have wondered if I should perhaps talk less about how much I hate my BIL lest I get myself caught out.

and here I am talking about it again

FaFoutis · 01/11/2014 13:30

I have. I wish I could say so to the poster but I can't.

ConiumMaculatum · 01/11/2014 15:50

Yes, today, by someone so self-absorbed they refuse to accept any responsibility for their actions.

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youarewinning · 01/11/2014 16:18

Yes many years ago. Not about me but an extremely close friend of mine and an acquaintance of mine who I disliked! who was a good friend of my friend. Was - thread confirmed not and friendship ended!
My friend had been asking my advice in RL and got pretty much same replies from me as from MN. That she was NBU!
I'm guessing she posted here as I mentioned the site back then when our kids were toddlers as a great place for information.

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