My husband was off work today and it has been a horrible day. I actually prefer him to be in work as his mood swings and attitude are getting to the point I can't put up with it any more. I have a c section next week so I wanted to use today to buy last minute bits. It all started really silly with measuring up for some new nets and my mom tried to guide him how to do it as he had not got the measuring tape right. She wasn't being funny at all just telling him where the tape should start and end. He gave her the tape and told her to do it herself. I was so embarrassed as he sounded so rude and I would never speak to his.mom like that.
All day he has been arsey like this. We then went to BQ to get something and my 4 year old was playing up so my husband smacked him twice. I asked him what he thought he was doing and he was just in a foul mood. He ended up roughly putting.him into the car. We then went home. Things didn't improve once we were home. I can't remember what started it again but he said he wasn't taking my son to his swimming lesson. My son started crying so I told my husband it wasn't fair to punish my son to get at me. I was getting ready to take him myself in a taxi and he ended up taking him after telling me to fuck off.
I put both our boys to bed(I also have a 2 year old) while he put the nets up. He was nicer when I came.down from putting.boys to bed. Then at bedtime he changed again. He went to get something out of the wash basket and I told.him that I had folded all the clothes as he was messing them up looking for something and he went mad again. I said I'm fed up of him undoing the work I do. He said what work? I haven't done anything all night, even though I put the boys to bed and cooked dinner.
I started having a go back, no name calling or swearing and he told.me to go fuck myself. I told him to not swear at me and he kept telling me to fuck off. I probably shouldn't have said this but he was sent to a special school when he was younger and I never knew the reason for this but we are having behaviour problems with our elder son and I said that what ever the reason he had to go there may be the same thing that is going on with our son. I only said this as he was being so horrible and his behaviour doesn't seem right and iwant to help my son. He shouted that it had fucking nothing to do with me and called me a stupid fucking bitch.
He then went on about how no.wonder my ex left me as I had issues then. I have then bit back and said what about your ex? He replied that she never made him feel like me.
I'm sitting here in tears, feel so low and don't have anyone to tell in real life. When he is nice he is really nice but this is happening more often. I don't know what to do as I'm.a SAHM so have no earnings and couldn't pay mortgage on my own. I'm not even sure how to even go down that route. I feel scared about the birth as had PND with both boys and know it will happen again if he is like this. My nan left me some inheritance money when she died and I put it all into doing up the house, he used 2,000 paying off credit card and 1,000 for a deposit for a car and he always goes on about that money that I was stingy with it even though I put it into a joint bank account but it was left for the reason of doing up the house. I have some left, not a lot but not sure whether to withdraw it as a safety net. Please advise.