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AIBU?

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New neighbours!!

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The3Bears · 29/10/2014 22:22

We had an elderly lady living next door to us for the last 6 years, sadly she passed away in May this year, her son in law owned the house and emptied it straight away and began renovating it for his daughter to live in.
He's been banging/drilling non stop for the past 4 months everyday without fail but has always stopped by 7pm, we have 2 young children in our house so this was fine and we just put up with it.
However this week has been a nightmare, his daughter is obviously moving in this week and has been here non stop moving things in but on Monday she decided 10.30pm! was an appropriate time to come and start decorating!! this woke my 2 children up til 1.30am when they left as they were banging on the wall which is between my children's bedroom.
Then tonight at 8.15pm a united carpets van pulls up and fits carpets in what I can assume 3 rooms as I could hear constant banging in every room in our house til 10pm!!
I am fuming dh is at work and I'm home alone with the children, it took me 2 hours to get my 2 year old asleep and my 7 year old is still awake as he can't sleep because there still banging now!
Ive took the reg number on the united carpets van and am going to ring the company tomorrow to complain, dh is going to go round tomorrow and have a word with our lovely new neighbours!!
aibu to complain to both the neighbours and the carpet company as surely fitting a carpet at 8-10pm is not allowed??

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Pipbin · 29/10/2014 23:27

Given that you are moving soon I would just suck it up really.

Yes it is somewhat inconsiderate but I would put it down to them not realising how thin the walls are. It could be so much worse, loud music, fighting, shouting or even sex!

I would mention it rather than complain.

BaffledSomeMore · 29/10/2014 23:29

If it was every night then yes it would be intolerable but there often is a period of disruption when you move.
As I said above it may be mates doing work in their spare time.
When we moved we blocked the close for 2 neighbours and had a noisy cleaning company for a day. Experience told us to go on a charm offensive to head any problems off but a first time householder might not realise.
A quiet word with a smile will go much further than ringing thr carpet company.

WooWooOwl · 29/10/2014 23:30

There will be a reason they have to get things done in the evenings.

You're not going to be there much longer.

It's not worth getting yourself this worked up.

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The3Bears · 29/10/2014 23:34

Im sure i'll calm down by tomorrow and I will just have a word with them but right now I am not calm. Dh is currently pouring the wine!

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AgentProvocateur · 29/10/2014 23:56

Worra I was going to ring the carpet company to ask if its allowed for a carpet to be fitted at that time of night as we've had carpets fitted before and its had to be between 9.30am and 5pm!

How do you expect people who work to get carpets fitted and jobs done? Honestly, you're making a mountain of a molehill. You need to relax.

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The3Bears · 30/10/2014 00:17

Well agent, I expect them to have a day off work like any other normal person does when getting a carpet fitted and its just common sense not to do DIY at 1am i would of thought.

They are now moving moving in there sofa and other large items out of a van in the middle of the road, dh has gone out and had a word (calmly for all you strange people who think its acceptable to do DIY at this time of night) and they have apologised and said they'll keep it down, he didn't raise his voice or get angry he just explained that all the banging had woken up our children and could they please do that at reasonable times.

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Pipbin · 30/10/2014 00:21

Why are they moving at this time of night? Early evening after work fair enough, but gone midnight? That's going to piss off the whole street even if they are as quiet as they can be.

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The3Bears · 30/10/2014 00:30

I don't have a clue Pipbin considering they've been bringing bags in all day I don't see why after midnight they've decided to move the biggest most awkward items.

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Nanny0gg · 30/10/2014 00:35

How do you expect people who work to get carpets fitted and jobs done? Honestly, you're making a mountain of a molehill. You need to relax

Um, you take time off work or you have it done on a Saturday.

And how can she relax with two awake children due to the (unreasonable) noise next door!

WalkingInMemphis · 30/10/2014 00:45

Hammering on the walls at gone 9pm - I'd give it five minutes then pop round with an icy smile and ask them to keep the noise down.

You don't bang around at night time. You just don't. You were very restrained op, I wouldn't have left it nearly as long before nipping next door for a word.

MintyCoolMojito · 30/10/2014 14:00

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QisforQcumber · 30/10/2014 14:30

I don't understand what is wrong with going round and saying something, better to have a chat that seethe quietly with resentment.

Our new neighbours decided that 5.30am on Sunday morning was an appropriate time for building furniture and drilling into walls. I went round, knocked and explained the walls were thin and could they please leave it a few hours. They apologised and stopped the noise until 9am and I thanked them the next time I saw them. No problems at all.

hellsbellsmelons · 30/10/2014 15:02

We have fairly new neighbours.
They are usually very considerate and let us know if they will be making noise later at night.
My OH went round at 9:30pm and told them to stop drilling.
They were great and just stopped bless them.
9:30 is the cut off for us.

googoodolly · 30/10/2014 15:30

I swear Mumsnet is a parallel universe sometimes

It's absolutely not acceptable to be doing DIY of that nature at 9/10pm. I think the law states that 7pm is the cut off, and that's for good reason! Our downstairs neighbours (a family business) were fitting a kitchen and there was drilling/hammering late at night a few weeks ago - all I did was go and ask them to be stop as our bedroom was directly above their kitchen and I had work early the next day - they apologised and stopped straight away like any normal person would do!

If you work full-time and need to do DIY or whatever, you do it at the weekend or you take a day off work for it, you don't do it at 10pm and disturb the whole street!

AnyoneForTardis · 30/10/2014 16:51

carpet fitters should NOT be putting carpets/making noise at that time.

look on your council website about diy noise and hours.

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The3Bears · 30/10/2014 22:15

Im just completely baffled by them, they obviously have no respect for anyone. Ive been out with my children all day DH at work and NDN was there this morning, so I presume all day they've been there to get done whatever loud work they have to do I arrived home at 6pm and no one is next door which is lovely I'm looking forward to getting my knackered kids to bed and myself, 10pm I go to bed and bang they arrive and now there in the bedroom adjoining my room fucking hammering something again!! There just taking the piss now we had a calm word with them and they said they'd stop any diy past a reasonable time and now again 10pm and this!!

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foreverton · 30/10/2014 22:30

My dd spilt Pringles everywhere ( shoot me!) And I needed to hoover, it was 9.30 tonight, had a birthday party today so house was a tip.
Looked out of window, next door neighbour just arrived home so I went out and checked if she minded me running the Hoover round quickly, it's considerate in my opinion.

I'm moving soon and will be the same with my new neighbours, I won't be decorating past dark or drilling etc, it's not worth the bad feeling.

Altinkum · 30/10/2014 22:34

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toomuchtodoneverenoughtime · 30/10/2014 22:36

Lots of people work til 7-8pm, doing diy after that is the only time it can possibly get done. I suppose unless you work those hours it can be difficult to understand it.

There have been plenty of occasions when we've had to do works in late evening as my XP didn't get home til 8 and worked weekends. Plus we found it easier to do work when our DC were in bed. We were never too precious about making them sleep in silence, dark etc so noise didn't disturb them.

I wouldn't complain about diy noise, or expect to be complained to. I find screaming DC far more disruptive, especially my neighbours who let their under 5s scream,shout and cry in the garden from 7am at the weekends. I'm hoping now it's getting colder they might start keeping them indoors where their yelling is at least slightly muffled.

Mrsgrumble · 30/10/2014 22:38

YANBU at all!!

I would go mad at that level of noise so late

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The3Bears · 30/10/2014 22:38

Ive moved house before with a child and had to get the house prepared when we moved here it was a mess, we had to re decorate nearly every room, there was giant holes in the walls etc heres the thing I coped, I didn't piss off my new neighbour by arriving every night at 10pm to bang on a fucking wall!! She's been here all day without her children, she stayed here last night without her children, her, her mum and her partner. I'd say she has all the time in the bloody world.

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The3Bears · 30/10/2014 22:44

Im not precious about my children sleeping in silence etc, general noise I'm not fussed about, but banging on a bedroom wall with a hammer would wake any child!

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toomuchtodoneverenoughtime · 30/10/2014 23:02

Presumably they weren't laying carpet on the wall?

She may well be there during the day doing certain tasks but need help from her dp or family members with others which given they probably work, falls to be done in the evening.

Surely it's better to focus on your forthcoming move rather than working yourself up over what your neighbours are doing and when.

NotOneThingbutAnother · 30/10/2014 23:07

I think the reason they do that sort of thing late at night is because it suits them and because they can - we had neighbours exactly the same when they moved in, they had young children (18 months old toddler etc) at the time, but I soon realised the mother was taking the children out to her family etc during all this so they had a nice stress free day/evening, whilst my house was pretty much useless to me during that time, couldn't work or speak to my clients etc. The husband knocked and said just to let you know we'll be doing some building stuff I said thanks for letting me know, he went to leave and then said "oh and of course, we'll be doing it all at nights and weekends to fit in with my work". As I say, they know exactly what they are doing.

NotOneThingbutAnother · 30/10/2014 23:09

toomuch how can OP not get worked up when she would rather like to go to bed at 10pm and her neighbours would rather like to make sure she can't?! OP is not saying they are doing stuff at 7pm! The other night (morning?!) they were moving in at 1am - how on earth can anyone justify that?

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