Xmas dinner - inlaws . AIBU ? Possibly am....

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The last two years we have eaten at a Brazilian restaurant on Xmas day. No washing up, sweating over hot pans, dd2 fussing round my feet while I'm red faced and getting pissed off because every one else is in the cool living room enjoying Xmas day.

At the beginning of this year dp said he wanted a small Xmas dinner at our home - he would cook it.

Mil offered to cook it for all the family but wanted £20 a head

We are a family of five including dd bf
BIL and SIL has three kids

So all in all we would have had to pay £200 to eat at his mothers!

It got turned down.

Some how every one got invited here for FREE.

BIL and SIL split up so BIL is just coming as kids will eat lunch with her.

FIL is coming. He is divorced from mil.

I've asked mil a million times if she is eating with us, she won't commit eg.. I may go abroad, don't know my plans. She is also a fussy eater and won't eat my food she will also stood over my shoulder askng if I kept the veg juice for gravy, did I keep the meat stock, is that really the way I mash my spuds ect...

I can't be arsed with the faff. Dp will cook but it will take forever (until I intervene) and he will obliterate the kitchen. No one will give me a hand clearing up. When they all came three years ago it took me two hours to clear up.

I want to eat out again. His dad can afford it, his BIL can (I think ) plus his kids will be with their mum. It's £40 a head. Dp says we have to wait to see what BILS kids are doing, feels tight on his mum

I know mil will not want to come to the restaurant.

AIBU?

Abandon the lot of them and go to Reykjavik on Xmas Eve. Northern lights! Yule Lads! Penis Museum!

Like your idea Disgrace

M + S do lots of things in foil trays, make sure DH gets these and any un avoidable washing HE has to do

Xmas, My cousins extended family used to do a massive joint effort for Christmas dinner. People loaned chairs, another dining table, pans, crockery, cutlery and glassware to the hosting house. They contributed food, crackers, and drinks. The work was divided so that all the ladies did the actual cooking and after the meal all the men cleared up while the ladies had their coffee in the lounge. And when I say the men cleared up, they really went to town on it. All washing up done, dried and put away, sink, surfaces and cooker cleaned, rubbish taken out, floor mopped. And then they had their coffee.

With the M&S things you would only need to 'oversee' DH doing the cooking, and then the men would be clearing up, so you wouldn't be knackered for the following day's festivities.