to not give the child a birthday card

[Grimserenasereaper]

My dcs have been invited to a Halloween party. It says birthday on the invitation, but I'm told the child's birthday was in September. AIBU to not want to give a 6 year old a birthday card 6 weeks or so late?

But surely the child would have seen her invitations, and know that it's a Halloween/Birthday party?

I can't see how a card and present would confuse her in that situation.

So you have a present and a card already, and don't want to give it because the six year old child has the audacity to hold a birthday party outside of your personal 'recommended birthday period' how long is that period by the way ?

YANBU

Turquoise.

If you feel that strongly that people should only have a birthday on their actual birthday decline the invitation and say nothing.

Have visions if the op sitting in the corner like a birthday grinch muttering about it not being a birthday.

Don't be so mean. I have a friend whose child's birthday is on Christmas day but they celebrate it in the summer each year. Everyone takes a card and a present.

Fgs give the child a card and find something important to worry about.

In our family we have half birthdays as well as full.

DD often has halloween or even Christmas parties for her birthday as it's at the start of September. They mix classes up every year at her school and sometimes she really doesn't know who she wants to invite until later in the term. I wouldn't particularly mind if people didn't bring a card/present, though.

Fin Thank you for your non-hysterical response! Perhaps it is something similar with this child. I don't have any objection to the late party, but wasn't sure of the point of cards. Do you put them up even though the birthday is long gone?

If she gets some, I do. I quite often tell people NOT to bring a card or present (she has enough tat) and they do anyway so we put the cards up.

I wouldnt have thought a 6yo would get confused. Get a card.

I get why it feels weird to give a card so long after the birthday and yes it would seem odd to me to put them up so late but I'd think I'd still get the card so as not to cause potential offence. If you can get a happy Halloween/birthday card then all the better.