To want to adopt a granny?

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Or more precisely to want a granny to 'adopt' my DS?

Have just had my PFB and we're the only ones in our NCT group without local family. I am supremely jealous that everyone else has had grandparents around to give them a bit of time off. I'm already wondering how the hell we'll cope with emergencies etc when I'm back at work. DS does have doting grandparents but they live nowhere near us.

When we were little we had no living grandparents and some child-adoring retired friends of my mum's 'adopted' us as their virtual grandchildren.

I am semi-seriously thinking that rather than hanging out at mum and baby groups I'd be better off loitering round older people in the neighbourhood in the hope someone will take DS under their wing?

Shame your DC will be grown up in 20 years time when I'll be wanting to ve adopted as a granny.

Unicycle, perhaps have some coffee before posting!

OP, I get what you mean. It is a wonderful mutually beneficial relationship if you can find a surrogate grandparent. I have several older lady friends. They are quite isolated, their children live away and sometimes the only people they see are people at the bus stop when they are popping out for shopping, not the easiest thing in winter.

I have someone to chat to, get advice from and general support,my dd gets older role models and they get someone on call if they need anything. Oh and we all like and respect each other and dont take advantage on either side!

Where are you? I am a 70 year old grandma of 9 and there is always room for one more. I love babysitting and am CRB checked for my work in school :)

I don't think you sound like a user at all. I'm at the other end of the scale - I'd love to be an 'adopted granny' to a local child. Wouldn't it be lovely if there was a way to make this happen. I grew up without local grandparents and was always very envious of children who spent a lot of time with theirs.

I'll do it if you're in South London but doesn't sound like you are. :( I'd love a grandchild. Missed out on having kids so would be wonderful. And I play the guitar & know loads of kids' songs. :)