To be a tiny bit miffed about this?

[PingPongBat]

DS (14) went go-karting with 2 friends (A & B) today. B's dad picked DS up this morning, I'd agreed with B's mum to pick DS up at the end. At least that's what I thought.

Various texts leading up to today, from B's mum, didn't make it clear that (a) B's dad would be dropping the boys off & then going to work, she was also at work, therefore leaving them unaccompanied by an adult from 9am - 3pm, & (b) I was going to be taking A, B & DS home .

I turned up this afternoon to find 3 boys apparently not sure about who was taking them home (or perhaps a bit embarrassed that I didn't know it was me, hard to tell).

To be clear - I have no problem with them being left by themselves - the place they went to seemed well organised, first aiders / marshalls aplenty, & they are responsible boys. But - I was a bit surprised that they were by themselves, and that I was taking them home!

Also, come to think of it, there was no safety information for parents that I was offered, in contrast to the paintballing he went on recently where there was lots of parent info and disclaimers to sign.

Anyway.... AIBU to expect B's parents to have been a bit clearer about the arrangements when he was invited? Or was I just being naive? Should I have asked more questions rather than assuming that someone would stay with them? I'm not up in arms about it, just a bit miffed.

I don't think you are BU, but I've learned to get all details about supervision beforehand. I couldn't care less if someone thinks I'm a helicopter parent because I want the low down on how it's all going to go. Where I am it's extremely common for kids to be 'supervised' by friends older siblings. I was told when we moved to ask directly if parents are going to be there and are there for the Duration since many parents that are hosting just leave when the kids are dropped off!

I think I'd be miffed too to be honest.

every go kartin track will have a safety briefing before they start
i dont know what further supervision there would be needed apart from the marshalls and the workers at the track

DS told me they were going up to 30mph!

And? That's fairly slow for a go-cart. At 14 I'd expect him to be going faster than that on a push bike on the road.

When I was 14 I used to go to London (From Harrow) Ice skating with my friend, then nosey round the shops, we would be back about 5/6 being out all day and returning by public transport. Mabey you could have offered lifts back.