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To just want to go home

19 replies

UnMasterChef · 28/10/2014 20:12

It's 8pm on Tuesday, I came into hospital as emergency at lunchtime on Friday and haven't been home. Been diagnosed with gall stones and an infection. Have been desperate to get home since I got here, but realised I needed IV anti biotics. At 1030 this morning consultant said so long as blood tests were ok, I could go home and they would follow up as out patient. Blood taken at 130. I've still not has the results, no one can tell me what is going on. The dr was meant to come and see me 2 hours ago but nothing. I feel fine, I'm blocking a bed, when there is a massive shortage in the hospital. I just want to go home. I'm even tempted to suggest they let me go, and promise to come back if the blood test results come back finally and they are bad. It's so frustrating, I'm stuck here, there is nothing I can do about it and I hate it.

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Brassrubbing · 28/10/2014 20:17

Sympathies, OP. I suggest you make a nuisance of yourself in order to find out what is happening, and as long as you have adequate pain relief, discharge yourself until something further takes place. I've done this. There's really no need to keep you in because of inefficiency, even if said inefficiency us caused by over stretched resources.

MammaTJ · 28/10/2014 20:18

Have you asked the nursing staff about your results? They can check them. They may be able to allow you home. Emphasis on MAY!

Worth an ask though.

MammaTJ · 28/10/2014 20:20

'Make a nuisance of yourself'? Really? How is annoying the nursing staff going to make to Doctors sort her out?

In my pretty educated opinion, probably not!

Caboodle · 28/10/2014 20:24

I fully sympathise and send un-mumsnetty hugs. You can discharge yourself but I wouldn't, I'd wait for my results. I understand how frustrating it is but it may not be docs fault - or inefficiencies - just an emergency or two has meant everyone is busy. Wait it out in the knowledge that you will be home tomm if all is well.
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SauvignonBlanche · 28/10/2014 20:24

Sorry to hear that OP, I know how frustrating it is when you just want to get home. You'll get there - eventually!

UnMasterChef · 28/10/2014 20:28

I've been asking about once an hour since 5pm

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UnMasterChef · 28/10/2014 20:28

The sister has just been in to ask me if I'm going home aaarrrgghhhhhhh don't ask me, surely she should know

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Hatespiders · 28/10/2014 20:52

I think you need to wait for the blood test results tbh. They will show if the infection has cleared. If not, you'd be risking the infection flaring up and possible toxaemia which is dodgy to say the least. Cheer up if you can. You'll be home soon enough but you and the docs need to be sure all is well first.

Monathevampire1 · 28/10/2014 20:53

Discharge your self?

UnMasterChef · 28/10/2014 20:58

I know I need to wait for the results, it's just so frustrating having to wait so long, as I don't feel ill. I'm nervous about discharging myself as I need a scan in the next few days and surgery in the next few weeks and don't want to jeopardise that

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NoMarymary · 28/10/2014 21:00

No don't discharge yourself, if you die from pancreatitis then you can't sue the hospital!

I am sure the results are for pancreatic involvement and infection response and as both can be very serious you've nothing to do except wait.

They don't let patients out 'on leave' and keep the bed open as it's not policy and if you needed to come back they wouldn't have a bed.

I know it's awful. I had a ct scan of my lungs at midday and the doctor had to 'talk' about the results before they freed me ...10 pm!

UnMasterChef · 28/10/2014 21:17

Just been told there now isn't a dr free to see me so I have to stay, but I have no idea what my test results are, whether they are bad or good

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WandaFuca · 28/10/2014 21:18

I think it's about the fragmentation of health care. Back in the good? bad? old days, it was the Consultants who ruled, and everybody did their bidding. But healthcare has moved on since, and some of that has been very good for patients, but sometimes it results in a lack of joined-up communication, which results in patients being in limbo.

I was in a similar situation last year, having been admitted via A&E on a Thursday evening. I was still there on Sunday evening, having received no treatment (cauterisation of nose-bleed) despite promises of treatment for the Friday, Saturday, Sunday morning, and then the Monday morning. I said to the (lovely) SHO on Sunday evening that I would go home and come back the next day. I was told I couldn't leave without treatment (fair enough, an untreated but temporarily controlled epistaxis is potentially dangerous); but I said there is no "couldn't leave", there was only "patient consent", so he couldn't stop me. I was then treated with cauterisation within half an hour.

The issue there was that there wasn't enough cover. The Consultant was having to cover a huge area, with little back-up, and the priority for him had to be the target for A&E patients. As I had already been admitted, I was no longer one of those targets, so I kept being pushed to the back of the queue. When I eventually went into the treatment room, I passed all the people who had come up from A&E, sitting in the waiting area, and they were all looking bored.

But I had been well looked-after by the nurses on a ward for three whole days, been fed for three whole days - but at what unnecessary expense?

UnMasterChef · 28/10/2014 21:42

I'm a huge fan of the NHS, they've done a great job of treating me medically, and nurses, HCA are good at looking after basic needs, keeping an eye on me, but there seems to be no co-ordination in getting things done and keeping it moving. There have to be ways of making it more efficient, which I suspect don't involve more targets, managers or privatisation, but a bit of common sense

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Hatespiders · 28/10/2014 21:49

I was in A&E a few weeks ago with chest pains (turned out to be pericarditis, not too serious) and it was obvious to me just how stretched the NHS really is these days. We waited for hours for various tests and there were hordes of people in the first triage waiting area. It was chaotic, with about ten ambulances rolling up and their casualties on trolleys queueing up one behind the other in the corridor. We didn't get home until 3am due to waiting for chest Xrays, ECG etc. But better to wait and get the all clear than to shove off home and regret it later.
Hope you get home soon OP and good wishes for your op and for better health afterwards.

lemisscared · 28/10/2014 21:51

I was admitted to A&E with gallstone pain (previously diagnosed), ironically had taken my DD (a baby at the time) to be checked for an eye injury (a bit of cardboard flewup and hit her in the eye - ok ok, she was only wee :) ) I had an attack and was admitted to majors for pain relief. I discharged myself as I knew what was wrong, the painkillers worked and i wanted to be home with my DD. (who was also needing fed!). They were fine about it, the bloods were relayed to my GP, who nearly fell over when they saw my liver enzymes, but no real surprise for an acute gall bladder episode.

If it really is a case of just waiting on the bloods i'd be out the door, however if it meant possibly losing out on a surgery spot then i'd be camping there til i got it cut out.

BlinkAndMiss · 28/10/2014 21:53

Oh OP I can completely empathise with you, I've been there too - feeling better but still in the dark about results and not able to leave. I had a 6 day old baby at home, it was sheer torture.

All I can say is that on the outside it seems you've been forgotten and no one is listening. On the inside it is very different, if your results are anything to worry about then they will have come to you and either changed your medication or changed the type of care you are given.

It's frustrating that the system is inefficient as far as resources go, that people are left to take up beds despite them being able to recover at home all because things have to be done at specific times etc. I'd assume that you are ok and that you'll be allowed home tomorrow when the dr does the rounds. I was sent home without expecting it once the drs had compared my blood results. Don't feel bad for taking up the bed, you've been poorly and the recuperation is important for you too. I hope you get some answers soon and are allowed to go home.

UnMasterChef · 28/10/2014 21:56

Thank you for all the understanding words, it does help. Surgery won't happen until the infection has gone down, but I don't want to lose my place in the queue. I'm very glad I don't have a little baby, I can't imagine what that is like. It's bad enough missing DD when we had lots of fun things planned for half term

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StitchWitch · 28/10/2014 22:13

I've recently had a friend desperately ill with pancreatitis. It's not worth risking it. Frustrating, though!

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