to want to smack dp with a large heavy object (lighthearted ish)

[wheresthelight]

so I have had approx 5 hours sleep in 30-60 min slots since 530 on Sunday morning. dd is teething and has a stinking cold and dp works nights so it's all been on me. he is off tonight so at 930 I said I was coming to bed as I am exhausted. he is sat downstairs watching a film.

dd woke up screaming at 1045, I woke up but stayed in bed thinking dp was awake and nee how tired I was so would see to her. 10 mins later she is still screaming the house down and no dp. so I get up and see to her and he finally saunters in about 15 mins later and tries to take over and then accuses me of "acting like a martyr" for not going back to bed.

does anyone else's dp/dh do the "oh it's ok she will sort the baby out" thing or is it just my idiot?

Horrible title.... There's no need

But he may have fallen asleep downstairs... Who knows!

yanbu to be annoyed with him but you left her screaming the house down for ten minutes without even checking she was ok for no reason other than you were hoping dp would deal with her? When my 2 were teething they often cried for longer than that because nothing was working but I'd never leave them that long without at least getting up to check it was just teething they were screaming about.

considering I know my daughter exceptionally well and have been up all night several times with her I am fully aware of the difference in her crying thanks. there was nothing wrong except the fact that she had woken and had teething pain but as usual dp ignores her completely until I shouted to him to get me the dentinox etc

God, 26Point, calm down. The OP put 'lighthearted' in the title and is horribly sleep-deprived so give her a break

Yes, wheres, I get this too from my DH, the delayed reaction time. DS will wake up or make some mess and miraculously I notice and react immediately while he then shows up on the scene after I do and says 'it's OK, I'll do it' or 'just let me do it'. By which time I've already sorted out whatever the problem was... He has impeccable timing!

A bit unfair on the Op, there. The baby is not her sole responsibility, she was catching up on much-needed sleep, her DP is accustomed to being awake at nights.

The only thing I would have done differently (and I am assuming that 9.30 and 10.45 are both pm, not am) is that I would have tapped dp lightly on the shoulder and said, "Ahem, your baby wants tending to" before retiring to bed, rather than smacking him over the head with a heavy object, which leaves OP with two problems; still dealing with a crying baby while shattered, and having to dig a large hole in the patio.

OP, YANBU at all. But he might just need this pointed out to him. Probably not with a frying pan, but a few sweary words wouldn't go amiss.

avery that is exactly it! and then i am meant to be grateful that he has come to my rescue!! I am still bloody awake and can't switch off whilst he has finally come to bed and is happily snoring away. he is either completely oblivious to or ignoring the fact I am fuming. he claims to not hear her but actually I think he is just a lazy bastard and ignores her because it's easier to think I will do it.

I suffer with an anxiety disorder and sleep deprivation massively effects it. I am literally on my knees with exhaustion and he just carries on like nothing is wrong.

dd hasn't slept through in weeks, she spent all of Sunday night last week awake and I was up all night as dp was due to leave at 6 for a training course and away for 2 days. she finally fell asleep at 430 and I fell asleep at 530 and he saw fit to wake me to ask stupid questions and say goodbye. she barely slept while he was away and then when he got back he had one night and then back to work so tonight is the first time in 3 weeks that I have had the chance to get some sleep due to this bloody course he has been sent on for work and the way his shifts have fallen.

his excuse was he didn't realise o was asleep. Ffs I had been up for nearly 41 hours straight with only the odd cat nap what the hell did he think I would be doing when I said I was going to bed???

oldlady - yes pm! he was down stairs so not able to smack with the frying pan tap him on the shoulder but fear not if she wakes again he will get kicked to go and sort her.

the patio is too nice to dig a hole in so will have to settle for lots of sweary words later although we are due out to lunch with his family tomorrow and am highly inclined to order the most expensive steak on the menu and pudding

Sorry OP, if you can tell from the crying that's all that was up that's different, mine only had 2 different screams which were I'm hungry and I'm cross about something so I couldn't tell without getting up to check.

If I were you, wheresthelight, I'd let DP take tired, grumpy, teething DD to lunch with his family, (where they will all fawn over her, regardless, so you're not placing a major burden on him) while you forgo a lovely steak in favour of several lovely, gorgeous, uninterupted (switch off phone, disconnect landline) hours of sleep...

Claim d&v, claim ebola, whatever, take the chance of some kip!

Yy to forgoing the lunch. Let dp take her, and get some much needed sleep. What drugs are you giving her btw? I used to give Calpol and Nurofen at the same time, happy days

Oh, and Ashton's and Parsons teething powder.

tempting but if I don't get some more sleep! she woke up at 345 so I made him go to her so his answer is to bring her screaming back into our room and proceed to talk loudly to her and wake me again. I could flaming kill him especially as when I woke him I said take her downstairs because she wants milk. she finally settled so he out her back in her cot only for her to scream again 10 mins later and I couldn't wake him so I have ended up with her for almost another hour and am now wide awake.

long - calpol, Nurofen, nelsons powders and dentinox gel and if ambersol wasn't 100% unavailable due to some manufacturers issie she would be on that too!

The sleep deprivation with a baby is hideous. I love my DP with all my heart and soul but there was many a night with DS1 that could have happily suffocated him for snoring in bed next to me whilst I got up for the 5th/6th/7th time in the night. It is utterly horrendous.

Last night Dh woke me up to deal with ff ds (8 months) when we are both working. Only after I'd got up and done it did I realise what had happened! I did then wake him up and tell him off but it was a bit late by then.

To be fair he got up earlier than me to do nursery run (he is better at doing it efficiently!).

But I also think he has not got used to the switch to ff meaning it is a'll equal!

well she woke again at 530 so i threw dp out of bed and told him to take her downstairs for breakfast and i woke up half an hour ago to toast and tea in bed so he probably has worked out he was an arse although i will be making it abundantly clear later that he either steps up or we are going to have serious issues!

The REALLY infuriating thing is his exw telling me how great he was with their kids - not sure if she is saying it just to wind me up though

Apparently anbesol liquid is magic and shows as available when I did a quick google.

it isn't unfortunately, when you click through on the boots website it comes up unavailable and having spoken to several different chemists i have been told the same!

Lloyd pharmacy have it on line.