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to be sick of people making fun of me

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PurpleTurtleDove · 27/10/2014 21:40

I have some minor learning difficulties and because of this I can be naive and can get very confused easily.

I was bullied a lot in school because of this and I'm finding that adults are just as bad and even now when I'm 23 people are still making fun of me because of this!

There are some nasty people where I work who have taken it upon themselves to make fun of me at every chance they get and I've even heard them laughing at me when they thought I haven't been listening and they have laughed about how "dense" and "stupid" I am. This has happened more than once. Sad I don't know what to do about the other things as it's more "subtle" and they don't do it around management.

Is it really too much to ask that these people don't make fun of me and for them to keep their opinions to themselves?

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BatTeethKeith · 27/10/2014 21:42

You need to make a complaint to either your line manager or human resources.

This is bullying, and not acceptable at all. Arseholes. Angry

avocadotoast · 27/10/2014 21:43

No, it's not too much to ask, and I'm sorry that this is something you have to put up with.

Is it something you can take up with your manager?

mrsruffallo · 27/10/2014 21:44

There are nasty people in lots of work places. As you get older you will find yourself growing a thicker skin. I don't know why people are so mean sprited- maybe it's to strengthen their clique or make themselves feel better.
You sound lovely- concentrate on the good people around you.

TheBatteriesHaveRunOut · 27/10/2014 21:45

Well the irony of course is that they are the ones who are dense and stupid.

Agree, you must tell your manager. If your manager is one of them, go higher up.

Keep a log of every incident.

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PurpleTurtleDove · 27/10/2014 21:46

I should add that most people who work there are nice and have no problem helping me. it's just a few people who have to behave like this and it happens wherever i go Sad.

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BuggerLumpsAnnoyed · 27/10/2014 21:47

I'm so sorry people are such arseholes. You are clearly not stupid.They are. And they're fuckers. This has really upset me.

stravagante · 27/10/2014 21:47

I am sorry to hear that people are being horrible to you. I firmly believe that people who do things like that are making up for some deficit in their own life or personality or situation.

Sometimes it can be fun to challenge unpleasant people with a simple, "Oh, are you feeling insecure today?" But it is easier to do that on someone else's behalf rather than on your own.

Wishing you strength and love.

thursday · 27/10/2014 21:49

Speak to HR, you don't have to tolerate rude mean people every day at work.

ApocalypseNowt · 27/10/2014 21:52

When people talk badly about you, just remember it says a lot more about them than it does about you.

So sorry you're having to work with people like that - I would absolutely tell your manager about it.

ItIsSmallerOnTheOutside · 27/10/2014 21:53

What absolute twunts. It sounds to me that they are the stupid ones. I think mrsruffalo right and they do it to make themselves feel better.

Like others have said, do keep a log of any incidents and report.

I hate bullies. I hope you're ok and find some nice people in your workplace.

missymayhemsmum · 27/10/2014 22:08

Are you being singled out and bullied OP or is it a working environment where people take the mickey out of everyone's foibles? Maybe your 'thing' is being a bit slow sometimes, whereas someone else might be laughed at for being vague, bossy or whatever? (my colleagues laugh at me for always losing my phone, someone else is teased for her makeup and high heels etc) Everyone has something they struggle with, and we support each other but also tease each other if that makes sense? But if it's just you being picked on and it's cruelly done it's not good enough, complain to your manager. Or can you just smile and deflect it?

pauline6703 · 27/10/2014 22:11

If people laughed at someone for being black, for having only one leg, for being blind, for being deaf etc it would be wrong.
It is equally wrong to laugh at learning difficulties. They are WRONG.

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PurpleTurtleDove · 27/10/2014 22:18

missy, no I think it's just me Sad.

I would talk to my manager but I have no idea how to word it. Anyone have any ideas?

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ReggieJones · 27/10/2014 22:26

Sorry to hear this is happening. It is definitely wrong and you should take action. These links might help

www.bullying.co.uk/bullying-at-work/

www.nhs.uk/Livewell/workplacehealth/Pages/Bullyingatwork.aspx

Gaige · 27/10/2014 22:36

Surely as the op has slight learning difficulties wouldn't the nature of the name calling (dense etc) be classed as disability discrimination?

flaneurieandme · 28/10/2014 07:10

I'm so sorry, that sounds horrible. The way they are behaving is unacceptable in the workplace and needs to change. You mentioned that there are some nice people and work that you're on friendly terms with. If you're nervous about talking to your line manager about this it might be a good idea to have one of your colleagues come with you for moral support. You shouldn't have to put up with this.

ApocalypseNowt · 28/10/2014 09:51

OP - maybe take note of specific incidents so you can say on x date bob said ........ - have some 'evidence' to take in with you.

Write down everything you want to say at least in bullet points - it will help you to be clear and not miss anything out if you get upset.

And yes, definitely take someone in for support with you if you can.

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