AIBU to be bored of the sleep deprivation?

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I felt bad for hijacking the breathing thread and got to thinking that actually DH and I don't have remotely normal sleeping patterns!
DH has severe insomnia - often resorting to heavy duty sleeping pills for some respite. Even when he does sleep he thrashes about constantly - enough to violently jolt me awake regularly despite our stupidly expensive specially designed mattress, that supposedly minimises this. The thrashing doesn't just wake me, it leaves me in agony. I have had two operations on my spine in the last year and DH thrashes (something akin to a small child jumping on the bed) so much that I have to take pain killers most mornings to get me going.
He had a sleep app that would record anything between 100 and 500 incidents of movement or talking during the night (between midnight and 7am). I regularly find him walking about the bedroom or talking about random shite.
I am constantly being woken by the duvet being violently yanked off me, often thumping myself in the face with the anchoring hand, or being strangled as it is pulled around my neck. If it isn't that it is an icy blast down my back as he pulls it tight between us.
I get that this must leave DH exhausted, but he then sleeps during the day and I feel that makes his, and my, night-times worse.
AIBU to ask that we either have separate beds, or even separate bedrooms? I sleep so well when he is not there, but he claims that he is even worse without me. The last time I suggested changing our bed or even getting a duvet each he sulked for days. I am exhausted and in pain and usually give up and crawl out of bed at about 5am. AIBU to dread going to bed with DH and to wake up hating him?
NB. I love my DH very much, it is just the mornings when I hate him.

He doesn't have insomnia if he can regularly fall asleep and take naps during the day - he just has bad sleep hygiene.

I had the same problem a few years ago. I couldn't sleep at night, napped during the day, the couldn't sleep, ad infinitum. What helped me was:

• get up at the same time every single day, so no stupidly long lie-ins on my days off or at weekends.
• no naps at all during the day.
• no caffeine after 6pm.
• go to bed when I'm tired, not at a set bedtime. So, if I'm tired one night at 8pm, I go to bed and sleep. If I'm not tired the next night until 11pm, I'll stay up until I'm ready to sleep. It means I don't lie in bed wide awake.
• also, if you can't sleep after 30 minutes, get up and do something, but not something like TV (too much stimulation). have a bath or read.

At the moment, he seems to value his smoking/TV time over YOUR sleep and wellbeing. Tell him he's being monumentally selfish and that unless he starts to make changes to help BOTH of you sleep better, you'll have to have a separate room for your own health.

I only meant fear of being hit. I would be stressed and tense all night in bed, wondering when the next blow would fall, even if he's not doing it consciously!

Clearly I never learn! I don't seem to worry about it before I go to sleep - ever hopeful I expect a good nights sleep and am surprised when I don't get one!
DH has been huffing all evening. We were at the neighbours for supper and it was so obvious that he was off with me - every time I said something to him he responded in a petulant monosyllabic way. I have pleaded bad back and come home. I should really think about approaching the emotional abuse rubbish with his manipulative petulant sulks when I next try and persuade him to do something about his ridiculous sleep patterns.