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AIBU?

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Original poster

So flipping angry!!!

28 replies

Keepswimming123 · 27/10/2014 09:07

V quick, have been having issues with my fiancé, to the point that I moved out (although that was also to help with my mum when my dad died very suddenly). Hardly see him anymore, and pointed out to him that this was a sham of a relationship. Long story short, blah blah blah, rang him last night and got an earful of loud music and some girl telling me he is 'busy'... He denied it this morning and then admitted it. I am currently past caring but Aibu to feel like I want to break his face????

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LadyLuck10 · 27/10/2014 09:10

Yanbu, but count yourself lucky that you've left him.

SquinkiesRule · 27/10/2014 09:11

Sounds like it's over. You went to your Mums to help and he took that opportunity to move on without you.

NaiceNickname · 27/10/2014 09:12

... Seriously? Hmm

I'd be breaking off my engagement rather than his face. Pretty obvious you have both checked out of this relationship.

iwishiwasacat · 27/10/2014 09:13

Sounds like you've been through a lot and you would not be unreasonable to make him an ex fiancé if you haven't already.

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Keepswimming123 · 27/10/2014 09:13

Yep. Thanks for that. I still feel like I want to hurt him... This is the guy that turned up to my dad's funeral completely pissed. And left halfway through the wake to go and get more beer... I am being totally unreasonable to even think that there is a future. Grrrrr. Though I am So so so angry and cross right now.

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AmserGwin · 27/10/2014 09:14

Your not past caring or you wouldn't be so angry. Thank god you didn't marry this loser! He obviously doesn't give a shit Flowers

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Keepswimming123 · 27/10/2014 09:14

Ring is off. Can you eBay ex engagement rings?!

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HappyHalloweenMotherFucker · 27/10/2014 09:15

Do you think there is still a future ?

Do you own/rent the house together ?

Lasttimebaby · 27/10/2014 09:17

Send him back the ring I think

YouTheCat · 27/10/2014 09:17

Turned up pissed to your father's funeral? What an absolute twat! How awful for you with all that to deal with you could have done with some support.

iwishiwasacat · 27/10/2014 09:19

You have every right to be absolutely furious, you're feelings are completely valid. The guys sounds like a complete and utter dingleberry.

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Keepswimming123 · 27/10/2014 09:21

No we were renting off his parents... And as soon as I moved out they got some girl to move in... Sorry, I know I am being ridiculous as it's obviously over, but at a loss to understand why he thinks it would be ok to let some girl answer his phone... Think I need to have a word with myself. He is a bit of a joke anyway, drunk all the time (as in will wake up at 4am and have a beer...)!etc, my mum hates him, friends hate him, etc. Think I am a bit scared of being on my own, which is why I have put up with it...

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MrsWolowitz · 27/10/2014 09:21

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Keepswimming123 · 27/10/2014 09:22

Yeah the funeral thing was pretty awful. He spent the whole morning throwing up, and I ended up worrying more about whether or not he was gonna throw up in the hearse, rather than my poor dad who had literally dropped dead the week before...

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YouTheCat · 27/10/2014 09:23

Could you imagine having children with this guy? Could you imagine being up in the early hours, feeding a baby and this twonk gets up, not to help, but to get a beer?

You have had a lucky escape. Enjoy being single for a bit.

Littledidsheknow · 27/10/2014 09:25

YANBU, and I'm sorry you feel bad/angry. Just console yourself with the fact that you didn't marry the tool.
Tell him straight it's over: that will feel good.

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Keepswimming123 · 27/10/2014 09:25

I know I know. And the amusing (or not) thing is he really wants a child... He's a bit older than me. No flipping way. No way I would trust my kids with him, plus it would be me supporting the whole thing financially as he claims he has no money...

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HappyHalloweenMotherFucker · 27/10/2014 09:30

Bullet dodged

iwishiwasacat · 27/10/2014 09:36

You are will rid of that duckwit.

Go forth and embrace your life now you are free!

YouTheCat · 27/10/2014 09:39

I think the term 'cocklodger' applies here.

MandarinCheesecake · 27/10/2014 09:39

You have had a lucky escape to be honest.

Better to find out now that he is a complete and utter twunt, than to have been married with a child.

Concentrate on yourself and your mum from now on in, don't give the fucker any headspace. He is not worthy of you.

LittleBairn · 27/10/2014 09:39

He turned up to your dads funeral pissed and you didn't end it then?! Really if that's the sort of man he is what did you expect?
YABU about the violence, even just in jest there is no need.

Aherdofmims · 27/10/2014 09:52

Ex finance!

You have had lucky escape and will meet someone far better. He on the other hand sounds like he has a lot of problems!

KnackeredMuchly · 27/10/2014 09:54

Give him the ring back.

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Keepswimming123 · 27/10/2014 10:08

Thanks, this was only the short version of the ongoing saga... I am def being unreasonable for it continuing so long... Just don't want to be old and alone (wails). He has issues that he has been promising to sort out for two years + and nada. I know this is for the best but still feel like I am coming out of it the worst... And also quite sad, to see something that used to be quite great end up like this.

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