AIBU to go to party when daughter is In hospital

[Mummytosurvivor25]

Am I being unreasonable , daughter has been poorly since birth 10 months ago we have spent 7 out of 10 months in hospital the other 3 months I have cared for her at home.
Before this most recent admission I had planned my first few hours break since falling pregnant and it was to go to a Halloween party, then daughter had to to back in to hospital , a month later ! Were still here ...I stay with her every night n day ..she is stable and well at the moment but bei fed artificial food through a central line so that's why we can't go home.

Anyway we obviously know the nurses very well and they comvinced me to buy a costume and still go out saying if I don't get a break from the four walls I'm going to crack.Wibu for me to go ????

whoops.

Go!!!!

DS was in hospital for 9 days when he was 17 months old. That drove me stir-crazy enough. You need time too.

Go and have some time to be you for a couple of hours. DC is,in safe hands and the nurses are,right you need a break. Your no good to your little one if you burn yourself out.

YANBU. Do it and enjoy yourself. No guilt please. You need to look after yourself too.

Being a parent doesn't mean you have to be a saint or deny yourself all adult pleasures.

Go out! Enjoy yourself!

Thankyou , you all made me feel a lot better about going xx

As a parent who has spent the last 20yrs with a DD who has been in and out of hospital for varying lengths of time, I say GO. You really do need a break. No one realises how isolating it is being stuck in a hospital until they have done it themselves. You need to take care of yourself so you can do the best for your DD. They will ring you if there is a problem - but chances are all will be fine. Have a great time.

Having lived the live of a medically complex mummy, I say that to care adequately for your DD, you need to care for yourself.

I forgot that part and thrust all my energy into caring for my DD for years - and it broke me. My physical wellbeing took a huge hit, and I have lost my sense of self entirely.

I am working on that now - but it has been a very long 9 years (of which 5 included home TPN when she was not in hospital).

Go, trust the nurses, care for yourself, and you and your beautiful DD will both benefit from it.