to be hacked off that dp hasn't/doesn't finish me off too?

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How many of your dp's are this selfish?? He initiates it every bloody day and then as soon as he's come (2 minutes later) it just stops. He doesn't care if I come or not. It leaves me feeling really unwanted even when I know im not. So selfish!

Cum dumper

Ohh ok I'm a bit slow this morning!

Do you not do oral or mutual masturbation?

Arf at cum dumper. Not heard that before.

My ex was like this. He just clean didn't care if I got off too. And I have a high libido. The routine wore very thin and it caused huge problems, before I left him for other reasons (which were related to him not caring about me rather than just whether I got off).

I'm now single but have a sex friend who's extremely generous. First night with said sex friend made me realize just how unsatisfied 2 minutes of being humped with no payoff for years had left me. I'm pretty much a new woman .

"Finish me off" what a charming turn of phrase.

Well you could finish yourself off in front of him? Of go first? Or communicate this to him honestly? If communication fails, action is: pull back right at the last minute so he doesn't come, look him in the eye and say 'this is how I feel after you're finished every time'.

This confuses me. Do these men just start having intercourse with you? No foreplay? Do they not touch you during sex?

Yadnbu!

itsbetter - no foreplay, no touching. It was literally like being a human flesh light. Glad I'm rid.

Why did agree to it?

I didn't so much as agree really. It kind of evolved into that as he gave less and less of a shit about me. I had the 'let's work on our sex life' convo many a time and I'd be promised the world. Then the act would come and he didn't give a crap again.

I think in they situation I wouldn't have agreed to sex at all if I'd known it would be like that. I would have rather not has sex. Also was it not painful having penetrative sex when not turned on at all?

Yep, and the ex was quite well endowed. Eventually I did just stop sleeping with him...between the pain and there not actually being a connection during the (very short) sessions because I was pretty much a sperm receptacle, there was nothing in it for me. Then I obviously had to deal with the "how are we supposed to work on our sex life when you won't sleep with me" thing. Oh the arguments that stemmed from me trying to get him to understand he has to actually put effort in!

No one wants to have to do any sexual 'work' after they have come. Get him to bring you to orgasm/bring yourself to orgasm first then he can have PIV sex and come quickly in 2 mins if he likes.

Jolleigh I'm sad you went through that. Putting you through pain for his sexual pleasure is utterly wrong.

Op stop having penetrative sex completely.
Only pleasure each other through oral or mutual masturbation. It will mean equal pleasure for you both.

Thanks itsbetter I'm well rid now and much more satisfied