.....to think that isn't a bloody appropriate video for 2/3year-olds?!

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DS1 and 2 (3 and 2yo respectively) have been clamouring for the 'Move it move it' song, so I put it on YouTube (Madagascar version). They watched it patiently and DS1 said 'Now the version with just the man, Mummy.'

I was confused, then DH came in and said they wanted the original, which is .

I lasted for about 30 seconds, then switched it off and gave DH an earful for letting his children watch a video that featured half-naked bottoms being shoved into the camera and also had a heavy emphasis on ladies dancing seductively around the central, all-important MAN.

DH argues that it's fairly tame. I don't agree. AIBU?

Oh dear, that song and video haven't aged well! What a racket! And the "fashion"...!

As far as 2 and 3 year olds watching it, I wouldn't have said it was a problem at all. They are way too young to really understand what's going on. It's just pictures to them.

Maybe with an older child I would want to point out that all the gyrating is pretty silly..... But to ban it completely is an overreaction.

It's hardly Trainspotting is it?

Doesn't bother me. My son is 3 and he loves the song.

It's hardly Trainspotting, but watching their blank little faces gazing at the gyrating ladies really got to me. The whole thing was all so 'let us make ourself attractive to this wonderful man' that it made me angry.

Grargh.

Worth explaining to an 8 or 9 year old, yes.

But at 2 and 3 as you said, they're looking at it blankly. So what's the point in getting upset about it?

I just find the whole concept unpleasant. I might be more irritated at DH for putting it on the TV in the first place, tbf. He's old enough to spot the glaring sexist messages and I thought we were on the same page with not wanting that crap in our home (where possible).

I also think that if you start off with 'Ah, they won't notice' then habit will take over and you'll still be letting them watch it at 8 or 9 because they always have done. I'd rather just not have it at all.

I can't see why the Madagscar version wasn't sufficient. I like meerkats

I agree with you. I think it's inappropriate for young children to see highly sexualised images. It's not good enough to say they don't understand it so it's ok.

Make sure they never do an unsupervised you tube search for Disney princesses as my 2 found Disney princesses die which had one of them in tears

Lesson learnt there and stricter supervision going forward

Yanbu, I would have been furious. They might not understand it now, but where do you draw the line? This is how sexism becomes ingrained in our society.

No, it's not suitable for 2 & 3 year olds FFS what's he (or some posters) thinking?

Whatever he says about them 'dancing sexy' - does your DH want that little gem repeated? Does he want them gyrating like that? It's horrible.

Madagascar version is fine.

Oh thank goodness, I was worried that I was being a hopeless prude there!

I did grow up in the Middle East (in a conservative Muslim country) so I sometimes worry that I'm over-thinking these things. Trouble is, there are probably a lot of times where I'm not thinking enough. It is hard to gauge.

I don't want my boys to grow up thinking this is what normal looks like. I read enough threads stating that modern pornography is responsible for frankly bizarre levels of expectation in young men and that young women think they have to live up to it. I think that the culture of male expectation starts somewhere and that it starts with stuff like this.

I probably am overthinking now but I'm still not letting them view it again. I've now watched the rest of it and am even more horrified!

Completely inappropriate. I agree with you, OP.

I even did a during the 'Ladies of the world, move it nice and sweet and sassy' bit on the Madagascar version - that's how prudish I can be

Yes, I think you need to relax a little, Madagascar version is fine!

I hope you can get your DH on board with this or it's going to feel like a very very long 16 years!

Oh I thought it was excellent, (first time I'd seen/heard it) and I don't think a small child of 2 or 3 would be affected by the content. They probably love the repetition and the rhythm.

Having said that, I realise if I'd played that to one of my classes aged 6yrs I'd have got the sack forthwith.

Completely agree with you. I would not be happy for 2 and 3 year olds to watch this either. I bet if you had daughters instead of sons your DH might think of this differently; would he want his 2 or 3 year-old DD to be dancing like that, following what she had learned from the video?

Yanbu and to those who think it's OK ffs.

Seriously.

LOVE IT reminds me of being little at primary discos jumping around with my siblings then the same in clubs as a teen.

DS (2) will love the beats, that's his breakfast song sorted!

My son aged 3 watches music channels and loves Ariana grande (wears corsets in videos) and Jessie J and nicky menaj etc. nothing wrong with it IMO.