to think this is very judgemental towards the Beckhams?

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www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2807168/Should-Harper-Beckham-really-using-dummy-age-three.html

I know, it's the DM. Sorry. And yeah, a dummy aged 3 isn't ideal. But really, maybe the child never watches tv and only eats organic lentils (for some reason I think this is what I should aspire to as a parent). Poor kid.

I struggle to feel sorry for the Beckham about anything to be honest.

Hmm my phone doesn't accept that 'Beckhams' is a word!

I carried DS3 (4yrs) home from school last week as he had fallen over & although he had stopped crying he was clingy & upset. Do people really stop carrying their children at all when they reach 3?

All of mine had dummies too & only one had a speech problem. His is forever due to being deaf & having a cleft palate. Nothing to do with a dummy.

That article is dreadful, mainly due to the blatant mother blaming.

Sanctimonious nonsense as usual from the DM.

Why waste your time reading it?

Middleton I never said she was a baby, just young enough to find aggressive paps intimidating. Many grown adults find it anxiety provoking!

I had a "dummy" until I met DH at 18yo. I sucked my thumb up until then, every night and during the day when I got stressed. He was the first person who made me feel safe and secure, ever. I have never sucked my thumb since, other than when I was in hospital and felt that I was not in control of what was happening.

Give them a break. They are allowing their child to feel secure, which with papzs all over the place must be hard enough as it is, without getting pressure from judgemental, misogynistic newspaper editors getting their oar in.

My eldest DC is in school and still has a dummy, however this is due to sensory issues so maybe I escape the MN judging?

It hasn't affected their speech in the slightest.

I can completely understand carrying a young child (who may or may not do as told) when surrounded by paparazzi. VB is I am sure used to it and obviously being wealthy is a trade off for the intrusion, but her daughter is a tiny child. A child with advantages for sure, but I can imagine a crowding press is pretty intimidating and the child is much too young to understand why they are bring crowded.

I didn't say that you said she was a baby Crash. I was saying that.

I have noticed quite a few articles in the DM criticizing famous parents. I can remember one special they did on how Prince George was being raised by an irresponsible mother (they never criticized William, just Kate) as the prince was not put in a car seat correctly.
It is just stupid and petty.
Strangely enough they seem to think the McCanns, parents who by their own admission left 3 youngsters in an unlocked hotel room, are saints.

Meh,whatever gets you through the day.

The paparazzi follow celebrities around 24/7 and take tens of thousands of photos. The handful that end up in the papers are the ones that the media want to use in order to 'make' a story up out of nothing, because they have nothing better to write about.

Celeb stories sell, and the journos are under pressure from their editors to come up with this sort of stuff all the time. They choose pictures to fit whatever 'angle' that has been decided on this week.

We never used dummies. It's just a class issue. The Beckhams are from working class backgrounds. That does not mean there is anything wrong with them.

When David B's son was playing at the same schools football tournament at which my son was playing in David B posed for a photo with my son's school team which was so lovely of him and meant so much to the boys. Just typical of how decent that family are and of course VB is a role model to many women as the wife actually has a successful business and is not living off male earnings - we need many more women like her in the UK who earn their own money.

' We never used dummies. It's just a class issue. '

You're probably right there.

"Living off male earnings" how bloody offensive.

I guess that was a pop at sahp who contribute to said earnings.

Class issue?

"Living off male earnings" - I seem to remember that when they met, she was earning far more than he was...

YANBU

But I find it quite funny how this thread mimicks the reader comments on the DM, and yet nobody on MN ever reads the DM...

"Harper the youngest of four children Mrs Beckham has with husband David."

This is a weird sentence... Makes it sound as though she also has children with a different father?

I knew this would be about that article and I agree it's so judgemental. None of my kids had dummies but DD still breast feeds at 3. DS still sucks his thumb to sleep at 6. Who cares?

The Beckhams and their PR team surely have enough clout to control publishing of pictures of their children. If it was what they wanted, we wouldn't even know what Harper looks like, let alone that she uses a dummy.

I say above VB is to be admired as she is a business woman who earns her own money and does not live off male earnings. I did not say the opposite. In fact I want most mumsnetters to get back to work and earn more than their husbands. VB is a good example of how to do it by hard work whilst you also have a lot of children.

Who cares?!

What's it got to do with any of us if she has a dummy or not? As usual the DM has produced another article having a dig at women...

If anyone started a thread saying I saw a random stranger's child with a dummy, they'd be shot down with accusations of being a nosey weirdo.

I earn more than my husband, always have done, am also not working class but upper middle class, on the other hand I also use dummies, oh where to pigeonhole me now

I don't like to see any child with a dummy but I would be more aware of a child of 3 who is not walking so has to be carried.