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To ask neighbour to stop shouting?

55 replies

TryingToSleepHere · 24/10/2014 21:27

I don't think I am but here goes...
New neighbours moved in a few weeks ago, about 4 doors down and have got lots of cats. Literally every night we hear the lady shouting for her cats from her front door, REALLY loudly. The bedrooms in our house are 2 floors up so we are quite far away from her when she's at her door. Other neighbours have also noticed this and are annoyed about it.
To be fair I haven't said anything so far because each night we'd had our windows open so it's understandable that we'd hear more noise from outside. Tonight is totally different - it's raining hard and really cold so all windows are definitely closed! DSS has just come downstairs having been in bed for 1.5 hours already, really upset as he can hear her shouting. He has even quoted the exact names of a few of the cats and they are quite difficult to pronounce so he must have heard them a fair few times.
From past experience I know that she'll keep going every 10-15 mins or so until the cats are back in, it's been up until midnight before. She's really annoying me now. WIBU to go round and ask her please to either stop or call more quietly? I feel bad that if she doesn't call then her cats may not come in and it is horrible weather out there. But the volume is absolutely unbelievable to be so clear and audible through the closed window and over the noise of the rain...

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Didyouevah · 24/10/2014 21:29

It seems even her cats consider her to be completely unreasonable. What an arse.

Methe · 24/10/2014 21:31

I'm normally quite polite in RL but this would piss me off and I'd have to say something, and it would probably be along the lines of shut the fucking fuck up, would you

Hassled · 24/10/2014 21:33

That does sound incredibly annoying. Is there an obvious reason why she doesn't have a catflap? You do need to talk to her - either she really is Mad Cat Woman or she just hasn't thought about the impact on neighbours.

TryingToSleepHere · 24/10/2014 21:36

They haven't got a catflap, pretty sure they own the house as well so no landlord telling them they can't. Front door looks pretty normal so I think it'd be fine to put one in if they chose to do so.

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Notcontent · 24/10/2014 21:40

You are not being unreasonable. Very inconsiderate of her.

Some people just don't get it.

WoodliceCollection · 24/10/2014 21:49

I wouldn't worry for the cats' sake about asking her- they are probably all in hiding under her duvet with their muddy paws if it's raining, shouting to them won't help. If they are out and want in later, they will scratch/meow at the door, there is really no time when it makes sense to shout for a cat to come in unless it is perhaps a small dog in disguise.

WoodliceCollection · 24/10/2014 21:51

Actually what you should do is go to the door every evening and shout "Fluffy! Gobby! Floppy!" until she asks what you are doing, then say you are calling your pet fish to come in and plan to do so every evening until she gets her cats under control.

PurpleSwift · 24/10/2014 21:54

Cats are brilliantb at hiding out in bad weather and tbh they come come when they're ready. Her shouting every 15mins will. It be hurrying them along. Yanbu.

ElliotLovesGrub · 24/10/2014 21:56

My neighbour does the same. It used to piss me off until I thought that if that's the worst noise I have to put up with from my neighbours, I'm very lucky!

TryingToSleepHere · 24/10/2014 21:57

Woodlice that made me laugh out loud!
She's still at it...DSS still not asleep, so I'm going round. I know it's late but they're obviously still up.

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Wolfiefan · 24/10/2014 21:58

Haha at getting cats under control!
FWIW mine came to a whistle. Perhaps go round and say you are worried they aren't settled enough to go out. You can hear she's having trouble getting them in and you've seen them roaming.

TryingToSleepHere · 24/10/2014 22:00

I am, however, going to retain the moral high ground and refrain from taking round the 4 piles of cat poo I found in our front garden and bagged up earlier today. The cats are always about during the day, it's just at night they seem to disappear off to the opposite end of the village.
Right, into the rain I go...

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Ticktockblock · 24/10/2014 22:29

That would really piss me off!! Any update yet?

Cpeepeeo · 24/10/2014 22:32

You threw the bags of cat shit at her didn't you Grin

thursday · 24/10/2014 22:40

She's not a fast learner then. Her cats don't come home when called = stop calling them. They come back when they're ready and if you've gone to bed, they stay out. Mine come the first time a call them, or they stay out. If they know you're going to come back every 10 minutes and give them lots of options, they don't care that you say it's time to come in.

I can't imagine someone shouting that loudly for a cat though, i vote mad cat lady.

TryingToSleepHere · 24/10/2014 22:45

Update...good and bad news.
Good news: neighbour's DH answered the door. He was mortified and very apologetic, assured me that it wouldn't happen again and also mentioned that all cats were back in for the night.
Bad news: bonkers car lady was hiding behind the front door listening to the whole conversation and was so outraged she dropped the cat she was holding who promptly made a dash out of their front door. Neighbour is now majorly stressing as cat is outside and her DH has banned her from shouting. She attempted to bash a cat food run with a spoon but her DH told her off for that. So now she's doing a stage-whisper and making kissy noises whilst waving a cat food tin silently in the air. I'm not spying on her, honest

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TryingToSleepHere · 24/10/2014 22:47

Cat food tin, not run

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Yoruba · 24/10/2014 22:50

Ah well at least she's making an effort op :)

I don't mind people who are annoying as long as they try and stop it if they're told!!

NeedABumChangeNotANameChange · 24/10/2014 22:51

I never understand people who lock their cats up at night? They are nocturnal animals, mine are so noisy if they are ever shut up at night running all over the house.

TheCunnyFunt · 24/10/2014 22:52

I have a neighbour like this! You sometimes wake up at 3am to her high pitched shrieks of 'PUSSY! PUSSEEEEEEEEEEEE! PUSS PUSS PUSS PUSSEEEEEEEEEEE!! Nearly 5 years on and it still cracks us up laughing Blush it's quite a few houses up though so it's not that loud for us. I think I'd have to say something if we lived next door though.

slimytoad · 24/10/2014 22:57

Aaah OP your update cracked me up, DH is wondering what I'm sniggering at Grin

ChrisMooseAlbanians · 24/10/2014 22:58

Grin stage whisper and kissy noises whilst waving a tin of food silently

TryingToSleepHere · 24/10/2014 23:08

OMG she's at it again. That was successful...not. I've came upstairs about 5 minutes ago, she's obviously waited until she saw the lights switch off and has started shouting again. I'm now lying in bed listening to her shout out the ridiculous cat names but it's so loud I'm even getting it slightly in stereo through DD's baby monitor...gahhhh!

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