To admit sometimes I just feel lonely and lost and empty

[marmaladestars]

It's just something that sometimes creeps up on me, the feeling I have no 'real' friends, no family, just feel like I'm a bubble that floats around but doesn't interact.

I just don't know how to explain what I'm feeling. As if there's nothing for me, nothing to look forward to or feel excited or happy about, I feel a waste of space and useless!

I'm sorry you feel like this, marmalade. How long does it last? Have you though what might provoke it? I suppose it could be hormonal, or signs of depression.
I have felt like this too. But it passes.
You are certainly not a waste of space or useless. If you truly have no friends, can you perhaps make a real effort to join some groups for leisure activities, do voluntary work or get to know your neighbours? Just one or two nice friends would make all the difference.

You're not alone. There are lots of lovely people on here I find, that will offer a hand and a hug.

Thanks for replying.

I do have friends but I don't seem to have anyone I can do the things is like to do with as friends are married and have children which I don't.

I have to work 2 jobs so I don't have much free time but whenever I have got time I feel so low

Not at all unreasonable. I feel like that most of the time. It can be worth seeking professional help, such as consulting your doctor. If you go down this road be prepared to be prescribed antidepressants in the first instance. Any further treatment or therapy could depend on their effectiveness.

Good luck.

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Thanks, I definitely don't want antidepressants though. I am having counselling due to bereavement and it's helping but I do often still feel like things are just rubbish.

Have you been on ADPs before ? If so I understand your reluctance as there can be side effects. Otherwise they can work, only they take a little time to get going. And there are many different sorts if ADP if a particular one proves unsuitable.

How long has the bereavement counselling been going on ?

Have you felt rather alone all your life, or just as a result of your sad bereavement (so sorry for your loss)?
I'd definitely join a few clubs/interest groups in the evening/weekends.
There are probably quite a few similarly isolated people in your area who would love your company for an outing or activity. It's only a matter of getting in touch.
Thinking of you and wishing you well. x

I know this feeling pretty well. I go through little blips like this where i just feel really blah. The only thing that help (and it's only a little) is running cause it gives me a bit more energy. I take ADs but they don't stop the blips.

Funnily enough my friend was just here. Our boys are the same age (2.5) and we were chatting about more or less just what you described really. Like how neither of us can be arsed with anything. We were friends in uni so have had some of our best years together. It's sad really... but my point is that we both feel like this so we feel like it must be quite normal.

I hooe that helps at all

I don't know if it will help but there's a medical term for not enoying life activities - anhedonia. I think it's a symptom of depression. You don't say how recent your bereavement was. But I think it's fairly common to feel a bit lost for some time afterwards. I know for me bereavement had a huge physical and mental effect on me for quite some time afterwards.

You can get treatment. They say it helps you recover faster. But for me it was really time that did it. I find mindfulness helps. I have a cd I listen to.

Grief and loss do sometimes make us feel like this more. A kind of parralel removed existence. Questioning where we belong, what matters, how to exist, adapt and move forward from. If this is how you feel, there is some normality in there. There is usually, in time an adjustment and movement from feeling like this. Hope that's of some comfort to you.

There's nothing unreasonable about feeling this way. I think many people feel this way from time-to-time. If you've had a recent heartbreak or bereavement, I think it's pretty natural to feel down and have these sort of thoughts.

That doesn't mean that they're true, however. You do have friends who love you very much and when you feel better you will feel connected to them, again.