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To be upset this ceremony was not announced.

9 replies

LassinLeeds · 24/10/2014 17:26

Today my DH, DS (2) and myself were shopping in the Trinity Centre in Leeds. It's a large new shopping centre with a small events space on the bottom level.

There are shops all around this small events space, one of which is the Apple shop which we were popping into this morning.

There was an event on in support of the Poppy Appeal. It was attended by dignitaries, current and former service men and women and some other people. There was a lovely band and a choir etc.

All the time this was going on there were shoppers milling around and chatting, the area was in no way roped off. I took DS to listen to the music for a bit, while my DH was inside waiting to be served. DS got a bit loud so I went back inside.

When we were done we popped out of the shop again and started to walk past the event area.

I suddenly realised that they were having some sort of 2 minute silence. One of the attendees/organiser types gave us a real mucky look as we were walking past, and a similar dirty look at other people.

There was a PA system so they may well have announced the 2 minute silence, but that was not audible in the shop and the Apple staff carried on as normal. Everyone one else was walking about the centre talking while it was going on.

I felt awful about it. I think it is really important to show respect to Veterans and I always observe the usual 2 minute silences that we get each year. I felt like a right cow just walking past, but we'd got half way past before I'd even clocked what was going on and it was too late by then. My husband was a few paces in front and I would have had to shout for him to get him to stop (there was so much noise from other people despite the 'silence'.) Plus I would never have taken DS out if I'd known as there is no way he'd managed being quiet for 2 minutes.

It's really been niggling at me and I'm thinking of sending the Trinity Centre a letter suggesting that they manage things a little differently in future, but I won't if people think I'm over reacting.

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InvasionOfTheBodyShatners · 24/10/2014 17:29

Forget about it. No harm done.

ArkhamOffett · 24/10/2014 17:33

You show respect if you know what's going on. Not your fault if the event wasn't advertised.

OldLadyKnowsSomething · 24/10/2014 17:35

The people attending the event may have been observing a silence of some sort, but can hardly expect to impose that on the thousands of other shoppers in a busy mall. It's one thing on Armistice Day (in my youth, it was the 11am on 11/11, whether that was Sunday or not, and pretty much everything did come to a halt) but just some random week day, meh.

Thesunrising · 24/10/2014 17:37

Why were they having a 2 min silence today? It's not 11/11 so who would really be aware that this was happening? A busy shopping centre seems an awkward location to try and organise a sombre ceremony outside of the official date of commemoration.

Whatisaweekend · 24/10/2014 17:40

Last year I was in Westfield and they announced the time for the silence over loud speakers so it was unmistakable if you were out and about on the concourses (don't know about inside the shops). I stopped but I could only see about 5/6 other people stopping. Everyone else just continued on their merry way, shopping, chatting, laughing, meeting friends etc.

Therefore, you are not being U in thinking that the centre could do better in making people aware but you would be U in hoping that people might respect it and not be utter rotten disrespectful bastards.

MaryBerrysBum · 24/10/2014 17:42

Not your fault at all, middle of Trinity probably isn't the best place to hold such an event. And I bloody hate that apple shop

MaryBerrysBum · 24/10/2014 17:50

And it sounds like they realised it probably wasn't the best place to hold it so would leave the letter Smile

GingerCuddleMonster · 24/10/2014 18:07

fear not DP is a serving soldier, once on rememberance day we attended an event him in full iniform, Que 2 minutes silence and about 30seconds in DP rips off the loudest fart I have ever heared Shock. In fairness it was the beginning of a dreadful 24hour stomach bug that the entire company passed around, problem was at the time DP turned and grinned at me half laughing, this then caused me to grin and my shoulders and the shoulders of other serving men josseling up and down Blush

yeah we all had a Hmm look but we couldn't help it. so fear not you walking past was fine.

MintyCoolMojito · 24/10/2014 18:56

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