to dislike my nephews?

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I get on fine with my SIL but I really can't abide my nephews. They're little brats, scream & fight constantly and because their parents can't be bothered actually parenting them they are constantly on their computers for hours and are in general little shits. My two end up coming back either behaving like them or upset that they wouldn't actually play with them. Just tend to avoid unless inevitable ie they get in totouch because they want something!!

The point Lucille was making is that women on MN predictably criticise their in-laws, not blood relatives. Hence the children they dislike are their husband's nieces and nephews.

Haha, point taken. However AFAIK no one avoids spending time with my kids...of course my children misbehave and can be pains in the neck hard work but if one of them was to punch me whilst shouting I hate you, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't tut at him and ignore it

Fwiw, the last time I saw a parent criticise their own child they got the most unbelievable flaming. Its no wonder mners children appear perfect. Say otherwise and risk death at the hands of the mob.

I see lots of threads on MN asking for advice on their kids behaviour.

I thought that's what the parenting bit on MN was for.

I have 2 nephews (brothers) that I find a little more challenging than the rest!

They are my bro's kids. They are generally just a bit boisterous as opposed to naughty but DS does find them a bit intimidating as they are quite 'rough'. He is fine with his other cousins but always seems a little bit wary of these two.

My only "non blood" nephew is actually the best behaved of our 6 of my nephews and always has been!

Reading this thread with fear that my children might be mentioned mostly because I'm paranoid about being a dreadful parent

Yanbu I couldn't stand my dn's when they were smaller. They were unruly, hyper and awful to be around. Now they are older I love being around them.

YANBU. She probably feels the same way about your children though.

Not at all U.
I have some nieces / nephews that I love and some I really can't stand!

FWIW I think it's normal, up to a point, to have more issues with IL's children as most people would find it more difficult to step in and deal directly with IL's children(or discuss with their parents) than you would with your siblings' children.
The nephews on my side are definitely more "naughty" and challenging than on DH's side, however I prefer being with them as there are no politics involved and I can tell them enough is enough.

I couldn't stand my eldest niece when she was younger as she was horribly behaved due to her parents not controlling her behaviour and teaching her manners. Luckily she went to a strict school that knocked that out of her, she's lovely now.

The younger niece is and always had been a delight. She was definitely born that way. She's naturally shy and watches everything whereas the older girl was more boisterous and outgoing.

Genes do play a part, some kids are born angels but most need parenting, some more than others. It's the parents responsibility to parent the children the way they need to be parented. No excuse for not doing your best to teach your children what they need to learn.

There's nothing worse than non involved parents who are oblivious to or worse, admiring of the havoc/upset their kids are causing.