AIBU to think my lodger is pain rude or an undercurrent of sexual tension?

[Spoonme]

I am actually posting on behalf of a friend who has a lodger in her property who she generally gets on well with and they have lots of banter.

However, every now and then he will make a point of commenting about attractive women, even when they are in a restaurant and it is inappropriate. Then, to wind her up, knowing she gets cross If he doesn't let her know he will be late for dinner, he will turn up 2 hours late and not apologise. The meal is then ruined!

I advised my friend not to make him dinners anymore but she thinks it unfair not to as she is cooking for the rest of the family anyway.

What is going on here - the lodger seems to be winding her up on purpose. Could this be a sexual tension thing or is he just plain rude?!

The meal thing is perhaps rude - it would be courteous to text but I don't think it is indicative of sexual tension.

I don't know about the commenting on other women's attractiveness. I would find it incredibly annoying if it was in a phwoar, check our her rack way (as Kentish said) but I also think it would be trying if it dominated the conversation all the time.

It is possible he is trying to challenge and manipulate as he is drawn to her. It is also possible that she is drawn to him and trying to ascribe his behaviour to sexual tension. It's also possible that there is the mother of all misunderstandings going on.

If she's normally quite sensible and perceptive then she may well be right.

Christ, this is an indecisive and unhelpful post

Not at all, thank you all for your responses. I have spoken to her about them and she has decided to back off from him x

Does seem strange. He's a lodger for God's sake. Why does it matter whether he is home for dinner, or if he doesn't come home sometimes? I don't mean you wouldn't mention it to his family or the police if you haven't seen him for an unusual while, especially if there's an odd smell coming from a suspicious new flowerbed in the garden or something, but really. He's not a husband, partner or child. It would be courteous for him to let her know if he's going away, obviously, and maybe even if he won't be home for dinner, but really, he just rents a room there. She does seem a bit too interested in his comings and goings really. Sexual tension? No.

She comes across to me as a bit creepy from what you've said OP.

I most certainly wouldn't want to lodge with someone like that.

when you say "rest of the family" who else lives in the house ?

Your friend sounds very odd.

She lives with husband and teenage sons

Strange indeed. Is she generally a fantasist ? Or gets herself oddly wound up about making sure that the "menfolk" are adequately fed and watered in case they expire from not being looked after or summat ?

Ha ha perhaps- she has a very 1950's approach to running the house!