If I bumped off my BIL??? Surely no jury in the land would convict me would they???
DPs brother drives me 
I'm sure I'm not the only one out there in this position !?!
He just seems to always undermine and rock the boat. Can't decide whether it's a bit of attention seeking (DHs younger brother) or he's just a sadistic twat.
Everything is going great between DH and DSC, they have a loving relationship, see each other regularly, ex is happily remarried, never has any problems with paying CM, all consistent and ticking along quite nicely. Since we had our own DC BIL seems to have gotten worse and is trying to stir up trouble.
Ever since DH spilt with ex over a decade ago BIL has been spiteful and nasty at times. Part of me thinks he enjoyed looking down on his brother when he was unhappily married, which made him feel better about his own life (he's always been very competitive) and doesn't like it when DH is happy (just picked up on things BIL has said over the years and even DH said this to me a while ago). BIL isn't very happy in himself or in his home life but says that he doesn't approve of divorce. He enjoys being on what he thinks is the moral high ground and looking down on others. Over the years he's been a bit of an Iago, whispering disapproval to me when DH was out of the room, whining to his parents that DH doesn't contact him enough and getting his dad to phone up DH to 'tell him off' ( they are in their forties FFS!!).
More recently BIL is trying to dictate what will be happening at an upcoming family event. His latest text message reads like an order to his older brother!!! DH is giving it a good stuff ignoring I just want to text him back and tell him to stop being a twat but that wouldn't be very lady like would it 
. It's the fact that he expects us to do the running around, pick up half the tab and play happy families with him. He just wants to strut in front of people (done this before) and make it about how great he is.
What grips my sh1t, is the fact that because he lives abroad (only 2 hour plane ride) he drops in and expects us all to run around after him like he's a little prince because he's too cheap to sort out his own transportation. We're suppose to drop what we are doing and do 8 hours of driving, rounding everyone up ( DSC live a couple of hours away from us) just to go over and see him where he is staying because he won't travel. All this for the pleasure of bring told where we are going wrong in life. Screw that! After ten years I ain't doing it anymore! Plus the mummy bear in me says not in front of my child!
He has dropped MASSIVE hints about staying with us, which we've done in the past and instantly regretted. Now we have a young child we are shamelessly using this as an excuse not to have him stay. I honestly wouldn't be responsible for my actions if he did, would have to hide all the sharp pointy things in the house and go to 
intravenously. It would be ... emotional
I feel guilty that this is the relationship that DH has with his brother as I get on well with mine. BIL used to say nasty things about DHs ex and how she stopped their relationship, so when we first got together I worked hard to support DH in having a relationship, but as time went by the real situation started to emerge. DH told me his ex only saw BIL very rarely and now I see why! DH has said he is sad that his brother is like this and has gotten worse over the years. He just doesn't get how his behaviour impacts others and then wonders why DH doesn't run to see him. DH has in the past picked him up on his behaviour but he just seems to sulk and go back to his normal ways.
Just a rant really. Anyone going to join me??