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Original poster

To ask for Bravissimo vouchers when someone asks what I want for the baby?

25 replies

weeblueberry · 22/10/2014 19:23

For breastfeeding bras. Obv. Wink

This is our second child and we've got pretty much everything still from our first (she's only 17 months now) so we don't need a multitude of vests and swaddle clothes. Last time people asked what we wanted and I was all overly polite and said for them to get what they liked. The difference was last time we had more money so going out and buying expensive stuff like nursing bras at £35 a pop wasn't an issue but this time money is a lot tighter.

So what do you think? Is it rude? Or is it considered 'for the baby' enough that I'd get away with it?

Am prepared to hear I'm being a selfish cow Wink

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Jessbags001 · 22/10/2014 19:25

Not selfish at all. If people are ASKING what you want, that means they want to get something that you'd be genuinely happy with. I think that's what matters to me most when I'm buying any sort of gift.

RainbowRabbit33 · 22/10/2014 19:26

I'd be fine with it if you were my friend/family member. Might be bit more awkward for the office whip round!!

callamia · 22/10/2014 19:31

It's a brilliant idea. I'm totally stealing it for next time.

Penfold007 · 22/10/2014 19:43

So long as you say this is your second baby and what would really is the vouchers for nursing bras. Again not sure I'd be that up front if it was the office gift.

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weeblueberry · 22/10/2014 19:45

Given how my boss reacted when I told her id be going on maternity only 2 years after the last one I'll be lucky if I get out without a slap on the arse.......never mins a present!! Grin

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attheendoftheday · 22/10/2014 19:46

I'm on the fence a bit. YANBU at all, and I totally see the sense in it, but I would secretly want to buy something the baby will use directly (preferably the last is tiny and cute).

DaisyFlowerChain · 22/10/2014 19:56

I'd be a bit Hmm and not like the idea. I'd rather get clothes in the next size etc for the baby than buy another adults underwear. Second children deserve new items just as much as the first child.

Leeds2 · 22/10/2014 20:30

I can understand why that is what you want, but I would prefer to buy something for the baby. Or, if you have everything, put money in a savings account for baby. I don't know why I feel like that, but I do!

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weeblueberry · 22/10/2014 20:34

No I totally get that the above posters. I genuinely see both sides of it (including the desire to get something wee and cute!) so wanted to get an outside view on it. If I'm honest the people id suggest it to would be close family who I could further explain it to iykwim? Last time my mum and dad bought all the nursery furniture which obviously we won't need again (the new baby will have to ultimately share a room with our toddler when old enough) so it's situations like that.

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secondthebest · 22/10/2014 20:37

People want to buy things for the baby! It would be better to ask for useful things for the baby such as vests, sleepsuits, sleeping bag, towels, nappies, bibs, bottles etc, and then use the money you will have saved to buy yourself a bra.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 22/10/2014 20:39

I think offer it as an option. I didn't ask for or suggest anything (first baby) and have mostly had clothes or toys. If people want to buy a cute outfit, they can do that without asking first.

I agree that second babies are as entitled to new stuff as first babies, in my house that's not at all! My baby doesn't care whether his clothes have been worn by another baby so neither do I. It might be different when he's 9 years rather than 9 weeks.

queenmools · 22/10/2014 21:00

Could you ask for mothercare vouchers (or similar) and then spend them on bras. Just makes it a bit less obvious.

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weeblueberry · 22/10/2014 21:04

Sadly nursing bras from mothercare wouldn't fit. Plus I would like people to have the option so if they're not keen they can decline or get what they fancy.

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SantanaLopez · 22/10/2014 21:05

I think it's a bit off, tbh.

JADS · 22/10/2014 21:06

My birthday is next week, baby due week after and I have requested bravissmo vouchers! I am hoping that people buy less for a second baby especially one of the same sex as previous.

Just a note - Bravissmo have an end date on their vouchers but have redeemed them 2 years out of date ( just in case you are inundated!)

Naoko · 22/10/2014 21:10

I would be delighted to buy a friend Bravissimo vouchers if she'd had a baby and that's what she wanted. But then I'm also totally ok with cash wedding gifts, christmas presents for adults, birthday wishlists, and all sorts of other MN no-nos that make life easier for me and get the recipient exactly the kind of gift they'd like, so YMMV :o

jamtoast12 · 22/10/2014 21:10

No I think it's a bad idea. I'd find it very cheeky tbh as I'd consider it something for you not the baby. Ask for practical baby things instead ie nappies, wipes etc and save the money you would have spent for bras,

HerrenaHarridan · 22/10/2014 21:11

Debenhams vouchers?

I get my 38gg bras from there and they also do mat bras

Personally I wouldn't have a problem with it though tbh

Original poster
weeblueberry · 22/10/2014 21:16

My birthday is next week, baby due week after and I have requested bravissmo vouchers! I am hoping that people buy less for a second baby especially one of the same sex as previous.

Aaaaactually my birthday is right before I give birth too so this might be the second option!!

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iwishiwasacat · 22/10/2014 21:19

I don't think it's unreasonable. As someone with massive boobs who struggled finding/buying nice nursing bras I'd be happy to gift a friend vouchers! You need comfy boobs.

Just FYI, brastop.com often has great sales on and do nursing bras in a huge range of sizes. I just got 6 bras from Cake, Hot Milk etc. for around £15 each rather than £40 each! :D

iwishiwasacat · 22/10/2014 21:20

Here: Brastop. They have fab customer service too!

fatlazymummy · 22/10/2014 21:35

It wouldn't bother me, but I can see that some people might not consider it a present for the baby, even if it is connected to breastfeeding.
I'd probably just ask for some nappies or wipes (or whatever bits and pieces you use) if I didn't need any new baby clothes, and then save my own money for my bras.

KnackeredMuchly · 22/10/2014 21:42

I say yabu - but can you ask for vouchers from somewhere like Mothercare?

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weeblueberry · 22/10/2014 21:51

Thank you for the link to Brastop. I'll definitely give it a look. Smile

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Purplepoodle · 22/10/2014 21:58

If I was a friend it would be a bit strange tbh as I'm asking for something to buy the baby as usually buy the mum a separate present. I asked for vouchers for mothercare or toys r us with my subsequent children as both have a great range of toys too. I often used vouchers on older children and replaced with money for the baby

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