This could be really long but I am going to try and keep it short. I am a female, and so is my ex. We were together for around 4 years and lived together. Basically never spent any time apart and I was extremely unhappy for a long time and a victim of her gaslighting.
Eventually I ended things, it was ok to begin with but then she guilt tripped me into letting her stay at my place whilst she looked for somewhere (we moved to her home town of Manchester. I was from Cardiff which she loved. When we broke up I moved back to Cardiff and she wanted to as well).
Things got messy including her coming between me and partners, slashing her wrists - that kind of thing.
She always got on well with my dad, usually only seeing him in the pub and us all getting drunk together.
Fast forward 5 years and we WERE still in contact until she tried coming between me and current long term partner.
I haven't discussed much of the relationship with her to my dad but after seeing him and her chatting on his Facebook wall I told ex to stop messaging him, there is no need.
I am angry at her for calling my girlfriend disgusting names and turning 3 close friends against me.
Anyway, my dad isn't great with Facebook and replied to a message she sent him on his own wall. It said that he doesn't like to get involved with my life etc etc and that she will always be a mate to him.
It incensed me and am considering going NC with him. Am I being over the top?
When I told her I do not want her talking to my dad, she said she will do it more now she knows it annoys me.
She is 38 ffs, completely deluded and v v malicious.