should my partner contribute more?

[dba1009]

My partner moved into my mortgaged house earlier this year before our baby arrived. He pays half of the bills but does not pay any rent for living here and also contributes very little towards our new child. He earns approximately a third more than what I do. He also has a child with his ex who visits every week and occasionally stays overnight. 3 years after splitting with his ex he still pays half the mortgage on the house they had together and also child maintenance for their daughter. He is unable to get out of his mortgage until the house is sold so is stuck paying this. My mortgage is currently 1/3 of my income which leaves me very little money each month. I have tried to discuss this with him however he keeps saying he will pay more but never does. His ex currently receives more of his income than I do for him living at my property. Am I being unreasonable to ask him to contribute towards the mortgage and contribute more towards our daughter?

I'm in a similar living situation to you. But my dp pays all food costs for our household including eating out, most of the costs for our baby, and frequently offers to help me with other costs if I need it.

So I think yours needs to pull his weight more :)

Cocklodger

It's just frustrating and makes me question whether he is actually comitted to our relationship. I did ask him about this recently and he assured me he is committed however still seems to be sitting back letting things run on as they are with no intention of seeking a resolve. I worked hard to save for my house so obviously want to protect my assets already in it as, like I said, I question how committed he is. I thought him coming onto my mortgage and any future equity being split was the fairest option but he doesn't want to do this even though our original intention was for us to buy together anyway. Thanks for all of your advice by the way it is much appreciated.

I am confused as to why this was not discussed prior to child arriving?

Surely when you found out you were pregnant, then finances should have been addressed.

I assume you are on maternity pay at the moment [or have been recently?], how was this managed?

Whilst I completely agree that if he isn't on the mortgage and wont be for the foreseeable future then he shouldn't be paying towards it, he should of course be paying towards his child and all other household expenses.

Going on holiday and buying expensive guitars whilst you struggle is a complete piss take.