to not expect my yr 8 dc's....

[frangipan]

Head of year not to call me love

Head of year to call me love.....

Did you say anything??

I'd find it very odd.

Depends on the context. Although my initial reaction is that no, I wouldn't expect it either.

Eh, it wouldn't worry me. I'm called it all the time at work by colleagues and customers.

Reminds of an incident where a mum (rather odd lady) called out 'hello sexy' to femail head as she came out of her office to say hello to a group of parents. I was a bit

What area do you live in? Everyone calls people love in South Yorkshire where I live, men and women, it's an everyday expression not a come on. Is it unusual in your area? Or did you just feel that it wasn't formal enough?

I live in South Yorkshire too. Tis the done thing. My 1st year up here (I'm from down south) I remember doing a double take at a big burly policeman using it to an equally big and burly lorry driver - that's fighting talk in Berkshire.

I live in South Yorkshire and DD goes to school here, but I can't see any of her teachers doing that. The HT would not approve at all.

I wouldn't blink

Context needed, was it an end of conversation: "alright, see you later love"?

This doesn't seem inappropriate to me, definitely the norm in some parts oop North.

YABU it's just how some people talk to others! I get it all the time in my job! Esp from older people.

It would be normal enough for me not to notice I think.

My grown up son got called 'my nobber' in his gap year job by a guy on the sausage stall in the market

Depends whether it was done in a sarcastic, passive aggressive type way, or simply an attempt to be friendly? If it was the latter, I wouldn't have an issues. It may not be the way I prefer to be addressed, but if it's well intentioned, why worry?

When my DD's (yr12) head of year replies to my emails, he uses his first name to sign off, and a familiar form of it as well (eg "Dave"). I spent ages trying to work out if I should address future emails to "Mr Smith" or to "Dave" and ended up just saying "hello" instead! I now just use Dave. IMO familiarity with/from teachers is refreshing.

I think "love" is often a bit patronising, a bit "there there little lady, don't worry your little head about that"

love

In which context was it said?

It depends on context.

YABU if it was:

• accidentally slipping and calling you love in the way of some MNers whose brain wanders so that they sign off a business call with "Bye, love you..."
• a sympathetic "love" if you had broken down in tears over something

YAB a bit U if it was:

• just a casual "love" used as a habit, possibly born out of regional usage (in that there's no real harm in it, but I'd still have expected a HoD to be more professional)

YANB at all U if it was:

• a patronising "love" thrown into the middle of a slightly hectoring sentence aimed to Put You Back In Your Place.

move to Bristol : even the Revenue used to call clients "my lover"

I'm in Yorkshire and everyone calls everyone else love. Men, women etc. It isn't a patronising woman thing, it's used for everyone. Bet he/she didn't even realise.

YANBU, being called 'love' by random men makes my skin crawl.

Plus it's unprofessional, whether it bothers you or not.

Lettice you assume it's a man. On didn't say.

Oh yes, talkin. I lived in Somerset and was a bit about the number of people who called me "lover".

Depends where you are and where he's from. I'm another from South Yorkshire and I wouldn't have even noticed this. I didn't realise until recently that it wasn't the done thing to call people 'love' in other parts of the country (along with the use of ta, apparently. Imagine if the teacher had said 'ta, love.' The horror!!)

I was born in Sheffield, but no longer have any family up there to visit. It was lovely being love at the MW services on a very rare trip north.

I live in South Yorkshire, Sheffield infact. But was also brought up not too far away, still in SY, in Doncaster.
I work in a school and have been a teacher for several years prior to now working in a primary.

Not once have I ever heard a teacher, TA or HT call a parent "love" on either side of the teacher/parent relationship. It isn't professional and so it wouldn't cross my mind to ever be so informal with a parent.

I certainly wouldn't expect DD's HT to call me love and I would be pretty :hmm: if she did.

Hi, head of year is female, we were talking about serious issues, Sen support and ed pshyc referrals, it was in the context of 'ok love, so if we do x y and z master frangipan will be more supported. That's great, I'll give you a call tomorrow ok love, to let you know I have done x y and z, ok bye love' I'm not offended just thought it was a bit casual, given that I would never ask for her by her first name and have always called her Mrs Head of year. Never come across it before. Midlands based.
Thank you for all of your replies anyway.