My husband has been offered a job through his company 30 miles away so it would mean a 60 mile commute each day. The job will be a lot more stressful longer hours, and a longer commute but a fair bit more money. At the moment my hubby works 5 miles away from home and works an 8 hour day he takes the kids to school and then works 10-7 and home by 7.30. This new job would be working lates and starting at 11-9 4 days a week with a Saturday working once a month. My main concerns are that he wouldnt be able to eat a proper meal for 4 days a week as his shift goes over lunch and dinner- the job is driving based so he would have sandwichs for lunch and a meal at a transport cafe in the eve or vice versa. As he will be driving long mileage he will sitting down for most of the day and not moving around - at the moment he is out and about all day going to various different places and he also cycles to work. We love the shifts he does now and we do manage financially but obviously the extra money would be great. When we were growing up my dad worked 70 hours plus a week and we never saw my dad and he was always stressed BUT we had a fantastic childhood we enjoyed fantastic holidays and days out when he wasnt working and never really wanted for anything. We were always able to go on school trips and enjoy after school activities whereas at the moment my kids cant as we cant afford for them to do dancing swimming, drama school classes and musical instrument tuition. We have had a falling out with my parents as they think my DH is lazy for not accepting this job - he is the provider and needs to provide he doesn't need to be home with his family or enjoy nights chilling watching TV he needs to be working every hour God sends so his kids can have the best things in life like he gave us. My parents are both in their 70's and both still work. I don't think it did me any harm long term not seeing my dad but I am not very close to him and he is constantly stressed because he has no time but he thinks the money is far more important and he is still working now to carry on giving his children an inheritance, which is a lovely thought but he says as a parent he would feel guilty not leaving us anything because he wants to sit on his arse watching TV or gardening all day. I have told them I think the time with the children as a family is far more important but he totally disagrres because he says by my DH refusing to work harder our children are missing out on so much. Opinions please....