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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to wonder if you've ever recognised yourself as the subject of an AIBU?

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girlwhowearsglasses · 20/10/2014 12:10

I have a fear that one day I will recognise myself as the subject half way through one. I think we've all been unreasonable at some point...

Anyone actually had this? did you resolve it in any way?

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stravagante · 20/10/2014 16:06

I'm always terrified of finding some reference to me. I've recognised a close friend thanks to a link posted to her actual facebook but happily MN deleted that thread.

redexpat · 20/10/2014 18:22

Does anyone else remember the clumsy saga? 2 Mothers agreed a joint party, only one seemed to forget this and came on here complaining about freeloading mum. Then freeloader mum came on, asked directly are you talking about me? We had this conversation where we agreed xyz? Then the op vanished, and avoided all contact with "freeloader" who subsequently organised het own party.

ZivaMcGee · 20/10/2014 18:29

I have an IRL friend who frequently posts on a facebook group for people with a particular medical condition which we both have. She posted about how unsupportive one of her friends was and how this friend didn't believe her posts. I knew it was me. And it wasn't that I didn't believe her posts it's just I knew her before the group and a lot of her "I've never been able to..." were a load of crap. She didn't understand how I knew she'd been slagging me off.

thatstoast · 20/10/2014 18:39

Well, there's this woman in my church group...

magpiegin · 20/10/2014 18:43

I know a regular poster (I recognised some of their posts) but they have never mentioned me. I haven't outed them.

SunshineDaisiesButterMellow · 20/10/2014 19:40

I thought that turned out to be a troll expat. Or am I mistaken?

HoneyDragonMumshnet · 20/10/2014 19:45

Yes. I swear too much on here

Caramelkate · 20/10/2014 19:49

I have just read a post in a facebook group about me today! Bizarre! And all the responses were slagging me off when I know on this occasion I have behaved impeccably ( to be fair it wasn't the poster who lied, but other people who were between us). Part of me wants to respond but it would be very unprofessional, and would out me! It's a very annoying situation.

HonoraryOctonaut · 20/10/2014 19:49

I have. It was written by my mother! It was a very long thread. Co-incidentally a couple of days later, having not seen that thread, I started one of my own about the situation. People posted asking if it was a piss take, and linking to the first thread. The fall out was not nice, some of the things on the first thread were awful. MNHQ deleted both. I didn't post on my mums thread but copied to read properly before it was deleted.

GuiltyAsAGirlCanBe · 20/10/2014 19:50

Spin - I am also always surprised at the dramatic faliings out between adult females!

I have rarely fallen out with any of my female friends as an adult - and not even really at school either. Perhaps I am such a bitch that I am considered a lost cause!

KirjavaTheCat · 20/10/2014 19:52

That party thread was the thread that made me join MN. Oooh 'twas juicy.

bluesbaby · 20/10/2014 19:58

Not about me, no.
Recognised a family member though, there was no mistaking it, especially as after her thread blew up, she posted on fb that she was upset about it!

ValerieTheVodkaFairy · 20/10/2014 20:13

Mmm yep, I've recognised quite a few

None about me though... Yet

quietbatperson · 20/10/2014 20:45

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

CatsCantTwerk · 20/10/2014 20:59

redexpat I remember that one too, I didn't know it was a troll though Sunshine

Moominmarvellous · 20/10/2014 23:36

Not on here, but I did on another parenting forum a few years ago.

It was a friend detailing a fall out we'd had and how upset she was by it. It was followed by lots of posts declaring I was a bitch and she was better off without me etc etc. however again, she didn't mention a build up over the years of unreasonable behaviour on her part which had led to me distancing myself.

We're still friends though and I never told her I saw it. It gave me an insight into how she saw things and we talked it all out ourselves eventually .

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girlwhowearsglasses · 20/10/2014 23:54

Ooh interesting that some people do take some perspective from AIBU posts - similar to own situation even if not actual situation - the MILs and friends I see. It's facinating- I find myself in situations with friends and in laws and thinking of the aibus i might write - and the reverse ones they might write

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PhaedraIsMyName · 21/10/2014 00:02

I clicked on the "should I tell her to dress down" thread thinking it might be about me!

Office has endless "dress down for charity" days which I never participate in.

GatoradeMeBitch · 21/10/2014 00:22

Nope, though I'm fairly oblivious so without them naming me I probably wouldn't know anyway.

I think my SIL and her family recognized a post I made about her DSis on another forum though (DigiSpy). I was in a ratty mood and made a bitchy post about how chavvy her kids names were. I didn't even mean it, I was just blowing off steam. But they have been icy with me ever since. At a family event I realized the sister's husband was heavily into forums, so there's a good chance he read it, and they read my other posts and put 2 and 2 together. If it's ever brought up I'll apologize, but I can foresee a few decades of frostiness instead...

Panzee · 21/10/2014 00:28

No but I always open school/teacher threads with trepidation...

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