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Original poster

He should have bloody well known I need to shower / bathe

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 19/10/2014 19:23

Ranting here so I don't scream at dh (I might be bu too).

We are having some bathrooms fitted. Since Friday we have

  • a functioning small downstairs toliet and sink
  • a bath (but with bare plaster and bare floor so it can't get wet.

Dh is fitting the 2 ensuite floors and bathroom floors himself this weekend. Not sure why he is doing it as we have paid a plumber to fit the bathrooms (dh thinks he will do a better job Hmm)

I had a quick wash in the bath this morning and them took the kids out for 9 hours - they are three and one and both are getting over horrid colds / tonsillitis.

I mentioned tonight that I would need a bath tonight as I need to wash me and my hair as I have an important day at work tomorrow.

He thinks aibu as I had a bath this morning and he needs to fit the bathroom floor tonight. He is in complete shock that I need to wash - why didn't I warn him about this earlier etc etc

Aibu

OP posts:
Phineyj · 19/10/2014 19:25

No, but it's probably a bit late to sort it now - is there a friend or neighbour who will take pity on you?

ShatnersBassoon · 19/10/2014 19:26

I don't know, bathing twice a day would be unusual enough in my house to need mentioning if using the bathroom is a problem.

Call a friend and ask to use their shower.

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 19/10/2014 19:28

Oh that's the other thing that's pissing me off (oh crap I'm drop feeding).

He's not keep on me nipping round to my friends to shower as both the kids are sick and there is a good chance one of them will wake up at some point between now and 11pm and he will have to deal with it in his overalls.

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SaucyJack · 19/10/2014 19:30

Going on our bathing schedule round here, damn straight YABU to think he'd psychically intuit you'd want two baths in one day.

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 19/10/2014 19:31

It's not really twice a day - I'm bathing tonight so I don't have to in the morning (have to drop the kids off early at two separate child minders then get to work early).

So I bathed this morning (Sunday 9am) he thinks I can go without another shower / bath until Tuesday morning

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DiaDuit · 19/10/2014 19:35

Get washed in the morning?

DiaDuit · 19/10/2014 19:36

Xpost. I would just get up in plenty of time to do it in the am.

Or have a sink wash tonight. Do your hair in sink too.

ShatnersBassoon · 19/10/2014 19:37

I still think you should have told him. If you're doing something out of your ordinary washing regime, and he's trying to get the floors finished, you should have checked that an evening bath would be possible.

NobodySpecial · 19/10/2014 19:39

There are people dying in the world with lack of water. I'm sure you can manage one day without a wash. Tie your hair up. Use a roll on/deodorant. Wear clean clothes. You will survive.

ghostyslovesheep · 19/10/2014 19:40

what do you have in the 2 en suits?

surely with 1 bathroom and 2 en suits and 9 hours you must be able to use something?

failing that wash your hair in the sink and have a wash

DiaDuit · 19/10/2014 19:40

Agree shatners. Although i grew up with a dad who was always fixing this or DIYing that and you learned to check/ask ahead of time how long it would take and what was out of bounds/still ok to use til then.

FishWithABicycle · 19/10/2014 19:41

Sorry although it's reasonable to want to wash when you do yabu not to have told your dh your needs in specific detail - he would not have guessed this without being told.

Leave a bit early in the morning and stop off at a swimming pool. Pay the fee as if you were going to have a swim but just use the shower and hairdryer then get yourself to work.

whois · 19/10/2014 19:43

Can't you have a good wash by the kitchen sink?

itiswhatitiswhatitis · 19/10/2014 19:46

I have to ask, why on earth with two small children would you render every bathroom unusable at the same time?

NobodySpecial · 19/10/2014 19:46

Is this a stealth boast? 1 bathroom and 2 ensuites. Surely he's not going to fit the floors in each room simultaneously? Unless he has octopus arms. You'll find a way OP. Don't worry.

ArabellaTarantella · 19/10/2014 19:47

There are people dying in the world with lack of water. I'm sure you can manage one day without a wash. Tie your hair up. Use a roll on/deodorant. Wear clean clothes. You will survive.

This ^^

itiswhatitiswhatitis · 19/10/2014 19:47

Anyway have a sink wash and was hair over sink.

Viviennemary · 19/10/2014 19:48

It's inconvenient but hardly the end of the world. Do as somebody else suggests wash at the kitchen sink. It's only a day or two.

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 19/10/2014 19:52

nobody sorry I know I sound ungrateful, we are lucky to have a nice house we live up north so my house is twice the size but a fifth the price of my London friends

Would love to just use a roll on a a stock of deo but I have to deliver a key presentation tomorrow and yes appearances really do matter.

Anyway going to a friends for shower.

itis rendering every bathroom useless was dh's idea (yes I am pissed off about that too).

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Agrestic · 19/10/2014 20:03

Surely you'd discuss washing schedules when planning the work? Lucky you though, a nice new bathroom! Try not to sound too excited!

itiswhatitiswhatitis · 19/10/2014 20:04

Ah well in that case I think you can be a bit snippy with him about it! On the upside you will have lots of lovely new bathrooms to wash in soon!

GobblersKnob · 19/10/2014 20:07

Christ, we renovated a house when I was pg with ds, we had no usable bathroom for a week and a half, just a downstairs loo and a kitchen sink, it was a pain, but fine.

Momagain1 · 19/10/2014 20:08

YANBU to be peeved that he has created this situation by really poor project management. Glad you can manage to get out to a shower.

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 19/10/2014 20:08

Showered now and feeling a bit better. We did discuss washing schedules

Me - oh it's great that we will have the ensuites done and then he (the plumber) starts the bathroom
Him - yes that should work

I will focus on the end game - thanks for letting me moan here, it's got dh out of the firing line Smile

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guitarosauras · 19/10/2014 20:11

If both dc are sick I'd want a functioning bathroom to use!

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