To wish dh would stop going on about how much things (or people) are worth.

[Sleepswithbutterflies]

It's getting on my fucking nerves. He's always done it and I do think sometimes our values are miles apart.

He's just said, re Mel B on the x-factor "she's got Eddie murphy's kid, that's got to be worth a few quid." And then looked her up to see how much she's worth.

When we go out he says "look at that for a car" or "look at that for a house" all the time. People on tv he regularly has to stop and pause the tv to see what watch they're wearing / car they're driving / jewellery they have. Then he tells me how much he thinks it's worth.

I don't know why but it's really getting on my nerves. Who cares? We aren't rich but we aren't destitute and we're lot luckier than a lot of people. Who cares how much money other people have or that their car costs £80k? What difference does it make?

It is a difference in values because he tends to judge people by how much money they have whereas I don't care!

Blimey, yes that would get on my nerves too!

No help sorry!

Could you tell him?

I suspect it comes from his parents as they are much the same - they comment on how much things are worth or how much the house is worth of someone they know etc frequently.
I just don't want it to rub off on ds!

My ILs are like this. They particularly go on and on and on about one of their friends- the massive house they live in, the expensive Range Rover they have , the fact that they were drinking bottles of some £200 per bottle of champagne at Christmas. On and on and on in a "wow, they have soooo much money" type of way. I've never even met these people but I feel I know all about their spending habits.

It's the way I'm expected to be impressed that annoys me I think. He waits for me to comment or agree but actually I don't care! I've no interest in the cost of people's cars, houses or watches. None!

It's like Harry Enfield Loadsa Money

I feel your irritation OP.

I used to live with someone like this. When he met someone he would blatantly size them up re income/lifestyle. He'd ask what they did, how much they earned, where they lived, what they paid for their house
It was mortifying. People just used to stutter with embarrassment/shock.
He got it from his father.

He never understood why it was rude.

Yes, exactly, who cares!

It's really weird.

Oh, and the holidays too! They are constantly off to Mexico or Mallorca or the Caribbean etc. Fabulous holidays! I don't even know these people but I get to hear all about their fabulous holidays!

I don't know them, I don't care about their holidays!

I think I'm trying to say YANBU.

Gah, I couldn't tolerate this! People's worth isn't measured by their bank balance.

Many years ago I stayed with a family, friends of a friend, for a weekend and during that weekend I heard them value Art (that painting cost so much), Love (he doesn't love her because he only bought her a piano when he has loads of money) and Friendship (he's great he earns so much an hour) in terms of money. Yuck!

A friend's DH used to do this. He worked in the city, so he thought about money all day, I think that's why it was. He gently had the mickey taken out of him about it sometimes.

Can you tell your DH to stop??

Does he not know that it's rude and common to mention people's things or talk about money? Honestly, where was he brung up? YANBU!

YANBU
My ex was like that. He chose his friends depending on what type of car they owned and the clothes that they wore. They were all as shallow as each other. I now have a new partner and a new set of friends.

YANBU. FIL is like this. His favourite subject is who is a bloody higher rate tax payer like he was.
Oh really, FIL, you were a higher rate tax payer? How wonderful.
Pete over the road is a higher rate tax payer? Well I never. Great stuff.
Hang on a minute, FIL, YOU were a higher rate tax payer? Why have you never mentioned it before?! This is pertinent info.
Jeezo. I need

Yanbu. How unimaginably dull he sounds.

Can I ask how do you deal with people like that? I don't know what to do.

Op i would deal with it by saying "so what? DH, you are becoming really dull/middle aged/envious/grasping And it's so boring/such a turn off/shallow" EVERY single time.

No subtle hints, no ignoring, just tell him. He sounds like he needs it.

I'm a bit shit at coveting.Can't see the point.Many years ago whilst on a very slow night shift a co worker was rabbiting on about this and that but the only words that I heard were 'robbery' 'garden theft' and 'two hundred pound carp' Because I'd zoned out and missed the conclusion,it wasn't until the next day when I said to my DH 'how big a freezer do you need to store a two hundred pound carp?Of well it seemed funny at the time

Just say that you really want to meet a guy who will provide you with the luxurious lifestyle that is clearly lacking in your life right now. Then ask him if he knows anyone who fits the bill since he is good at estimating values.

Dreadfully crass

He was obvs brought up knowing the price of everything and the value of nowt

Or sommat like that

Yanbu - can't bear this. What does he say when you point this out to him?

My DH is a bit like this . He gets envious when other people have more expensive things than we do.

He used to try and 'keep up with the Jones'' until I discovered he was getting into debt buying TVs etc. that we didn't need!!

Luckily he's calmed down and reassessed his priorities over the years. But there's still an element of that there.