Does Anyone Live with a Parent? Feeling the stress?

[bigbluestars]

I find it quite hard at times.

Your son sounds lovely x

Thanks juggling. I try not to "sweat the small stuff". Sometimes he smells a bit, I hear bad language coming from his room when he is playing games online with his mates.
I am just happy that he doesn't steal, drink smoke, he hasn't made a girl pregnant.
He loves to cook, gives me loads of cuddles, thanks me for doing his laundry and came top in the year for physics.
I ignore the small stuff.

My ds just turned 13. He's a cool dude too, and gives me great hugs
Long may it continue!

We did. For 5 months and it was horrific. Just awful. In so many ways. Now we are a suitable distance apart and all is well again.

juggling- that's lovely to hear. Teenagers get such a bed press, but for me it's been the easist time yet. I have a 14 year old and a 17 year old and they have been as easy as pie. No back chat, no slamming doors, no pushing the boundaries.

Enjoy your son.

Aww thanks bluestars Mind you we've only done 2 days of being a teenager so far ..... I'll let you all know how it goes ...

Getting thread back on topic we lived with my DParents for a couple of months when we returned from living abroad, but it was pre-DC, and that was hard enough (especially for DH/DP)

Hats off to all those living with 3 generations.
MY DGF lived with us when we were teenagers so I do have some experience of the challenges involved.

When my parents visit us or we visit them it's the most stressful time... I don't know how you do it bigbluestars you must have ridiculous amounts of patience, good on you

I've lived with my parents and my DC since January. Have been trying to buy a house nearby and that's been a nightmare BUT we get the keys this Friday!

I've out on a stone living here, have had air-clearing flare ups with both parents and have missed my independence.

BUT, my two sons (11 and 6) have NEVER been so well-behaved, I've been able to go out at night, and it's saved me a fortune (even though I pay rent).

I'll be forever grateful for my parents showing me how to properly discipline kids. Not smacking or anything, just clear, consistent ground rules and expectations of good behaviour. I'm desperately hoping I'll be able to continue that in the new house. My kids are WONDERFUL now.

My Mum had to live with me for a few months when she was 'between flats' - but I don't really remember much about it.

I think it helped that we agreed to treat each other more like 'lodger & landlord' & she never interfered in anything.

DSIS lives with my parents and has ended up with caring for them as they have got older. DM is lovely, but pretty much housebound and needs a fair bit of help with washing etc. My DDad is still his warm hearted but short tempered self, but getting frail.

DSIS should have found a husband and had kids, not be nursing them. I've done the odd day (don't live very near) and does my head in.

So this is a moan on her behalf!

some people clearly like multigeneratational living but Id do anything to avoid having my adult children live with me.

I live alone and I just love it

"some people clearly like multigeneratational living"

I don't think it is a case of liking it- I would prefer not to.

surely some people like it?
(although its my idea of hell)

God poor you. I once went back for two weeks at Easter in my first year of uni. Was horrible. They were horrible, they had a five bed house and were controlling about the one I was saying in. Would rather be on a friends sofa.

Two days Max for visiting .

I guess some do. I don't.

I think it is commendable you are looking after her. However do not forget to put yourself first. If she is doing your nut in you need to look at her moving out.

I also find Mum staying here a bit wearing as well. But she doesn't do it often thankfully. She's watches totally different stuff on TV to me and dh and stays up a lot later than we do. That in itself isn't a problem but she won't set the alarm and would prefer us to leave it off. She refuses to learn how to set it so ends up going up to bed the same time as us which is too early for her so she doesn't sleep. Then I feel bad about that but I can't stay up late as I'm shattered and not in the mood for chatting or watching anything. I just want my bed.