ex going out while daughter poorly

[mummysarah25]

Im still living with my ex at the moment and on wednesday our 4year old DD was rushed to hospital and kept on oxygen for 24hrs due to a pretty bad infection in her lung. Shes asthmatic and since getting out she has required her inhaler alot more. I never left her side at the hospital and her dad provided much needed support. Today he has decided to go out with friends from work and it seemed that this was a big priority for him eventho our DD cant even walk around the house without her inhaler. Am i being unreasonable by being annoyed? Im not sure...

Meh, you were there. Not something I'd bother winding myself up about, assuming you have the same freedom to have a break after a stressful week.

Not sure why she'd need two adults with her when she's well enough to have come home.

Parenting isn't a competition to see who can care most.

Thanks for your replies. I think lack of sleep is getting to me. Im not one to complain about him going out, normally im all for it, just seems abit insensitive given the week we have had. Thanks again

I would simply say "I'll be on dd watch today so that you can have a break with your mates. So tomorrow, between such and such time, you'll need to be on dd watch so that I can get my stuff done and have a break."

I'm sorry your little one has been so poorly, it's a scary time and you must be exhausted.

It's increasingly common that exs have to remain under the same roof due to housing costs etc. You need to have a non-confrontational chat with your ex and agree a childcare rota/access just as though you were in separate households. He probably parents in a different way to you and to be fair as you are no longer in a relationship he isn't there to support you.

Arrange to have some time to yourself when he is at home, just tell him you are off out and he needs to parent his child. Even if you only go for a coffee make sure you do it xxx

Oh and tell him to keep his phone switched on and nearby because if there is an emergency, you will call but not call repeatedly.

Hmm, don't know. I think it depends on the bigger picture. If he is normally a caring, attentive dad and partner, who pulls his weight around the house and with childcare, then I'd let it go.

If, however, it's pretty par-for-the-course, him buggering off out leaving you to shoulder all the chores, then I'd be having words.