To want DD's brown owl to just get married and stop going on about her wedding

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DDs brown owl has turned into a full on bridezilla!!

DD says she's asking the brownies to help her make a paper flower bouquet as part of their craft badge, has invited them all to her dress rehearsal in a couple of weeks which takes place in church nnext door during brownies , has had them making bunting and place cards for her wedding and according to dd never stops talking about it.

Its got to the stage were dd does not want to go to Brownies because she's sick of her bridezilla Brown Owl. Its a shame because she used to love Brownies. I've pointed out to her that the wedding will happen in 2 weeks then all will (hopefully) return to normal. Brown Owl is normally brilliant but it sounds like the first half of this term has been wedding hell for her Brownie pack!!!

I think the craft activities they are doing sound fine. The brown owl obviously gives up a lot of time to run brownies, so it's a shame that you and your dd aren't happy to do something nice for her in return, but if your dd isn't enjoying herself then it sounds like it's time for her to leave and try something else.

Or on the other hand would you consider offering to run an activity for the brownies so brown owl has one less thing to prepare before her wedding?

Ah I think Brown owl sound very enterprising I bet lots of the Brownies are loving it.

I think it sounds lovely too.

When I was a brownie we formed a guard of honour at tawny owls wedding. I expect that's why the brownies are to be part of the rehearsal ( presumably it's NOT a dress rehearsal, that would be a bit unusual) . The fact that I remember it all these years later it must have been significant to me as a child.

I understand that your DD isn't into it, but there will always be activities at any group that some children don't enjoy. That's the way of it, isn't it .

Why don't you volunteer to help out for the next few weeks, to take the pressure off poor brown owl? then you can make sure that they only do things that your child likes < head tilt>

I imagine Brown Owl thinks that all the children and parents to whom she's given masses of time, free of charge, for years would be happy for her and pleased to help.

Also, that wedding are exciting for little girls and that they would like to be involved. The children probably need to be at the rehearsal because they have the honour of an interesting part to play.

And, how lovely that she's happy with flowers and decs that "her" Brownies have made, as opposed to everything having to be expensiveand perfect. She sounds the exact opposite of Bridezilla to me.

TBH, DD should be thrilled to help to show her appreciation for everything Brown Owl does. I appreciate a child can't always see that, but her parent should.

One of the things I remember about Brownies from 30 years ago is being in a guard of honour at our Tawny owl's wedding. It was lovely.

If your Dd doesn't fancy it, maybe keep her off for the next 2 weeks.

Personally I'd not want my Beaver Scouts so involved in my life, but I can definitely appreciate her need to combine volunteering with her other life. If my Beavers could mark books or plan lessons I'd certainly find a way of getting them a badge for it

Give her a break or offer to organise a couple of activities for the next meeting. I doubt you'd be turned down.

she sounds like the kind of person who would want to hand make all her own bunting anyway, but due to running a brownie pack she won't have time (it takes up loads of time, i used to be a guide guider, you wouldn't believe the time it takes if you want your girls to have all the opportunities the movement offers).

our guide unit had three weddings and three babies in the space of about four years (mine was second wedding and second baby). one guider had the guides at the church (v. christian wedding), the other two of us didn't (my wedding was a mountain biking piss up in a barn at a youth hostel, really not guide appropriate). two of us took our babies to meet the girls, one didn't. We have all had to give up volunteering as our babies are between 6mo and 13 months and the unit is in new hands but i hope that the girls got some sense from those years of how many different ways there are to deal with weddings, pregnancy and new babies.