To be utterly hacked off that I don't feel like celebrating.

[Belleende]

Have NC, just cos i can. Have had 3 miscarriages, one 'chemical' pregnancy and no much wanted DC.Turned 40 last week, on what would have been the due date of the last MC. Am now pregnant again, and not even a little bit of me is cheering and excited, like it should be, like it was with the first pregnancy. I am bricking it and expecting the worst. It totally utterly absolutely sucks.

Oh op. :( how many weeks are you? I am crossing all my fingers and toes for you. Have you got anyone to talk to at home?

Poor you - I can understand why you don't want to celebrate

How may weeks are you? Do you have some RL support?

You don't have to celebrate - you can just do what you feel like doing (or not doing!).

Sending for you x

I know exactly where you are coming from. 9 years ago, on my birthday, I was sitting looking at a positive pregnancy test thinking 'meh' and I never really did get excited about the pregancy, having had three miscarriages before. Fortunatly, ds made it - but I'm not sure how many times I could have kept trying tbh

It really sucks that I can't get excited, at all, about pregnancy (2 mc 1 chemical this year). Have you started to have tests/ referral s at all?

Fingers crossed for you. I have had 5 mcs so know what you mean.
Did you get tested before this pregnancy? are you on any treatment?

Feel free to join the recurrent miscarriage thread here on MN, we are nice people...

Well it is understable you are not enjoying it (yet). Who would in your case? Crossed fingers and toes. If/when all goes well, we will allow you to boast and brag on here!!!!!

At the best of times pregnancy is nothing like in the adverts! Who sits in sunlit rooms with voile curtains wafting in the breeze gazing at their navel for 9 months??

It's a stressful time for so many reasons. Not least worrying if the baby is ok and weather you'll go to term. It's easy in hindsight to say 'enjoy your pregnancy'. Or i should have enjoyed my pregnancy. But life doesnt work like that.

YANBU AT ALL to feel like not allowing yourself to get excited. I've been there - last year. Just take one day at a time and be good to yourself.

All fingers crossed for you [flower]

Or even :)

Bell....

Fingers crossed thinking of you....of course you can't just relax and enjoy it your bloody terrified....

Extra scans along the way?

Totally understand your feelings on this one.

One suggestion I'll offer you is that you get your vit D levels checked and supplement if necessary - I'm still convinced it was the difference between me miscarrying x3 and keeping the last pg. (Low vit D status is associated with both infertility and MC)

Thanks all just out of work so couldn't respond til now. Feeling a bit less bummed, weirdly because my last AF was only 15th September but I am feeling stupidly pregnant. Going to try and relax a bit if not enjoy. I have low thyroid and am being treated, but levels are still not quite where they should be. Have upped meds. This is the last go for me I think, so I am keeping everything crossed.

Is there a Pregnancy after miscarriage support thread at the moment? I had three miscarriages before I got pregnant with DS2, and the women on the support thread were an invaluable lifeline. It really helped having people who understood because they were in the same place.

Good luck.